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User Topic: Wow. My Doc Is Gone.
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Helpless  Posted: 3:58 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You ladies will understand this. I just found out my OB/GYN passed away two weeks ago. I knew she was battling lymphoma for a year and a half and now her war is over. Damn cancer won.

She’s been my doc since AJ was 10 years old when she took over for her medical partner (my previous one and only "original" OB/GYN and doc who delivered AJ) when he died suddenly of a stroke while caring for a patient. Imagine that.

I was scanning the obits today for an update on another friend who passed and stumbled upon her name. OMG, I loved her. She was so damn down to earth and never minced words. She made me become steadfast in my health and was a big reason for my recent lifestyle change. She held my hand when I had to have the dreaded *you know what* testing and even offered to “de-penis” my X for me . She hugged me when I cried about my recent mammogram scares because of my sister's BC history. Whenever I needed anything prescribed she first tried to hook me up with samples. There was a time I didn’t buy birth control for a whole year.

She was a peculiar treasure. She wore her hair down to her thighs held back by a thin scrunchie, was ALWAYS dressed in black, sported some big ass Harry Carey style eyeglasses and smoked cigars.

Wow. I'm sure her office staff will get around to mailing me something once they figure out what will be happening with her patients and the other partners she has. I mean had.


I’m almost 55 and might have to shop for a new “lady” doc.


This makes me sad.


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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry to hear that. You describe her so well, she sounds like a treasure.

"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Aj's mom))

Time to be my own bff.

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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She sounds just wonderful. What a testament to her that her patients feel so strongly about her! That's a life lived well. Your description makes me wish I knew her.
I'm sorry aj.

Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.

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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, ajsmom .((hugs))
I can relate so well!
My family doctor delivered both my sons, and he was also a wonderful counselor to both my H and me.
I began seeing him when I was 16 and continued until he retired when I was 52. Sadly, just a few months after he retired, he was killed in a car accident. I still miss him after 10 years.
I hope you will be able to find another "treasure" like her.

[This message edited by looking forward at 6:01 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]

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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry to hear this. I know how important a bond with a doctor or nurse can be. It makes taking care of yourself so much easier when you have that kind of relationship with a medical provider.

My trusted OB retired after Tapper was born. I was given to one of her partners, the one who delivered Hedgehog, so there was already a bit of a relationship there. I've now come to trust her in the same exact way and couldn't be happier. I hope for the same sort of outcome for you.

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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She sounds like a gem. I'm sorry you lost her.

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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, August 23rd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry. Our first family doctor died very quickly from cancer. She was only 41. I loved her and thought that we'd "grow old" together since I was only a few years younger than she was. She was one of those doctors who treated you as though she had all the time in the world to talk with you, and she was great with my kids. Very sad.

I hope you find another good match, and I hope that your late OB/GYN is enjoying her stogies in heaven.

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Default  Posted: 2:41 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm sorry. That really is rough. Its a long relationship with someone who was so really took care of you.

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d-day 10-02-01

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Default  Posted: 2:50 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sad to hear the world has lost such an awesome woman!

I have a friend who was scheduling her annual exam and called the office...was told her doctor was no longer with the practice.

She googled around, hoping to find where she went...and found her obit instead.

Horribly sad -- she was barely 40 years old with three young children (including an infant)...and she committed suicide after finding out about her husband's infidelity.

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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((AJ's Mom)))

I know exactly how you feel. My "lady" Dr was the most awesomest man in the world. He was old enough to be my father when I started seeing him. He started his practice the year I was born.

He was a kind, caring, patient man. He delivered my DS and called me the hero... (It was a difficult delivery).

He retired and I was given to his partner, a younger woman who was rude, abrasive and abrupt... I HATE her.

I learned he'd passed away only one year after retirement. I was so sad.

Me: BSO - 49
Him: FWSO - 72
DS - 16
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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