Mow had more kids then me and had a child more recently than me. Wh said she felt different but not better or worse.
I had my last baby 15 yrs ago.
I have only been with wh...he has been with other women before me and now...while with me.
Do men really think a woman feels that much different if shes had a vaginal birth? Wh says he doesnt remember what i felt like before we had babies. He says everything is "good"
Wh took my "virginity" at 17...well sort of...i had been raped at 6 but only remember bits and pieces.
Anyhow...just wondering if someday i divorce..if another man will have a problem with my having delivered vaginally.
I had easy deliveries.
Anyway... Would love to know if there's a noticeable difference for guys.
But I have heard some men think as such.
I wouldn't have it uh lol tightened though. My grandmother had 9 kids.
I know mow had kids too...
Just feels like one more strike against me as a woman.
Uh ok....im not a man. I have no idea what a womans vagina feels like or how "different" they are. I dont know anything about penis's.lol.... I have only been with wh.
I just feel crappy..mow is older had more kids had a baby more recently than me has had several sexual partners.
I doubt wh cared about any of that.
I feel sick
P.S. Some women (ahem) have aching hearts because of the opposite problem and they get tighter / *too* tight (with pain) as the age because of atrophy. We have to be loved for all of who we are - not because every one of our particulars stands up to the scrutiny of a magnifying glass!
Every vagina and surrounding area is a space that reacts to stimuli, either physical or mental. Unstimulated the vagina is rather roundish like an apple. When aroused and during intense foreplay it lengthens and becomes more narrow, like a banana. Trust me, it is all in the foreplay. If your man wants you to tighten up he better be willing to do the work it may take. You can do pelvic exercises, but generally you can still get there after vaginal birth with the right stimulation during sex.
I also had to ask what Hag was like between the legs. I am over 50 and had one c-section and one vaginal birth with stitches after a 9+ pound baby. Yes, he says the 35 year old OW (no births) was different, but she never could "grab on" like I do. Why? He did not take the time to do the proper foreplay. It was get it done just for him. She pretended to O, but he said he could tell she did not because he has felt my O's and it just was not there.
Also, a factor in all of this is the fantasy, stimulation, and titillation your WS and the AP were experiencing. Maybe just the illicit nature of having sex within an A made both of them react physically more intense than settled marital sex does. And of course, if your WS needs a red hot mess of a sexual partner, how the hell did he expect the A would affect that for the two of you?
Relax, read up on sexual health, and love your parts. Contract those muscles while driving, washing the dishes, watching TV, etc. Just watch the eyebrows. We tend to raise them up and down with each contraction. They are a dead give away.
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
Not really having sex with wh anyhow. Just feeling down.
I know that might be uncomfortable for some guys...plus they probably dont want to say the wrong thing.
Im pretty sure im ok down in my lady parts lol just feeling insecure tonight.
From what I know and what my married male friends have said after their wives have delivered is that "things" rebound after some time.
I'd bet that what your wayward husband is saying about you is just part of the excuse-making that waywards use to give any justification for what they have done. Honestly, you should not give it any further thought.
Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
Where is PurpleJacket?
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
I just feel insecure about myself and my body. From the top of my head to the tips of my toes.
My vagina doesnt escape the insecurities.
Mow waxed her lady parts. I shave mine. The last year I havent and wh made a comment about my forest when I was getting out of the shower!
Its not wild! Its neat and trimmed! Wtf! I wanted to say to him if he wants a hairless pussy to go find his old whore...ass.
4 kids all adults.
Married 22+ years.
I have moved on and life is good!
Now for the good news - after I had babies, sex was better. Dont know what happened, whether the G sport moved, or I became more sensitive, but orgasms are more intense, and I "feel" everything more than before.
Dont let anyone give you any crap about women who have had babies compared to those that havent.
I am 47, have had three kids, gained and lost weight, lived a bit, had a fair bit of sex (good and bad) and now I am with a loving partner and I have a sense of security about myself - sex is better than ever. And my fiance would say the same/
sometimes being a woman is just shitty. And this thread is another example.
For goodness sake, we deliver these men's babies, and this is the thanks we get.
I just had this conversation with my WH. I was saying that it really does suck to be a woman. I was saying this in reference to an older couple, probably in their 70's, that walked by us at a restaurant. Time had taken its toll on both of them, but they were still holding hands.
I said to him that I just didn't think I could grow old with him. I didn't think he would be around for the long haul or when I got sick, etc.. He of course denied that to be the case. But you know what, I delivered his babies, breast fed them and have the battle scars to show. He has three kids and nothing on him changed except normal aging.
As women, we constantly compare ourselves. There will always be someone younger, tighter, skinnier, smoother, ....
From where I sit, it really is a man's world.
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."