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smc0813 (original poster new member #40198) posted at 3:42 PM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
My husband came clean on July 21st that he was having an affair with a married woman. They slept together twice once on July 7th and once on July 8th. I just found out I'm pregnant. And our conception date would've been around the time of his infidelity. I feel so dirty. He slept with her and then around the same time slept with me. And now the only thing I can think about is did he get her pregnant too.
Married: April 20, 2012
First born(Sophia): August 13, 2011
Miscarriage: August 4, 2012
Discovery day: July 21,2013
Second Born(Gabriel): April 10,2014
krazy8516 ( member #40076) posted at 3:55 PM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
Yikes!
First of all don't stress, don't obsess. Take care of yourself and your baby.
It's still so early out from d-day... how are you and your H doing (NC, remorse, transparency, counseling, etc) Have you told him about your pregnancy or are we the first to know?
::hugs:: hun. We're here for you.
me: BW, 30
him: WH, 25
us: edging closer to R every day
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
smc0813 (original poster new member #40198) posted at 4:18 PM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
Well I gave him a deadline to decide if he was willing to do mc or if we should jus get a divorce. That date was set for August 19th. I found out august 17th. But I didn't want it to affect his decision so I didn't tell him right away. But now he's not acting very interested in the pregnancy. Every time I bring it up or talk about plans for the kids room or baby names or whatever he either ignores me or makes a negative comment.
Married: April 20, 2012
First born(Sophia): August 13, 2011
Miscarriage: August 4, 2012
Discovery day: July 21,2013
Second Born(Gabriel): April 10,2014
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 5:22 PM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
First off you are not dirty.
The date came and passed and now he is ignoring you or saying something negative about your pregnancy. I would check out my legal options and quickly too.
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:26 PM on Saturday, August 24th, 2013
^^^ This. Bring a little reality into his fantasy life that of supporting you and your child. Also, I do hope that you had STD/HIV tests. Especially since you're pregnant. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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