Me BS (41)
This is just my opinion and I am sure that others may give you better advice:
There was NC for two years, it may just be worthwhile to continue to ignore her.
If it is of comfort, seeing no previous NC was sent, your H might want to send her a brief note telling her not to ever contact him or you ever again since she has no part in your life now. (As to her fiancée, I would send him a message as well if you send one to her. Does he know what he is marrying? It might help him. Also brief message around the NC request.)
Not sure I am the best counsel as I have had a recent DDay ...
[This message edited by AStar at 11:43 AM, August 24th (Saturday)]
Him WH (45). EA and possible PA (denied)
D Day 7/21/2013
M 8 years - filing for D
**The cruelest lies are often told in silence- Robert Louis Stevenson