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User Topic: What would you do?
♀ 32522
Member # 32522
Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't post here often, although I read and have learned much from many of you.

A little background: My husband of 32 years had several short term and LTA for about 20 years while he was traveling for business overseas. When I found photos on his phone and confronted him about 2 1/2 years ago, he said he didn't want a divorce, he said he would go N/C and he has been working very hard on being a better man and husband.

I did experience about a year and a half of TT because there were so many OW and he said "he didn't want to hurt me more than he had."

So - last week he was getting ready to leave for another overseas business trip. He has a new phone and asked me to help him download pix from his computer to the phone before he left. The only way I know how to do that is to download all the pictures from the computer - so I did..... and there were 13 naked pix of one of his OW that she had sent to him in 2010.

He said he didn't know they were on the computer - they were in his old phone's back-up file.

Should I believe him??? I feel like an idiot if I do - I know everything that is on my computer...

Since he has had NC with this OW since 2010, why does it bother me so much to see these slutty pix that she sent him?

It has been extremely hard to try to reconcile after so many OW, but I am trying because I want break the cycle of infidelity that my husband's FOO has perpetuated, for the benefit of my grown children who know nothing of their father's OW, etc.

Please help me understand the anguish I feel and what I should do with those pictures.... He did delete them from his phone and computer before leaving town, but of course, I saved them to my computer!

Me- BW (55)
WH (56)
M 32 yrs
DDay - 12/21/2010 TT for 10 months!!!
LTA 15 yrs?
At least 10 OW... Some ONS... 4 were LTAs

Posts: 10 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Kansas
♀ 38719
Member # 38719
Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, August 24th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know that much about technology. I found OW's photos on my WH SIM card, he has erased them from his phone without realizing they would turn up when his phone was backed up to the computer.

I suppose it is a good sign that the photos were dated 2010 and there were none more current ?

Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died

Posts: 282 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Canada
Topic Posts: 2

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