BS ( Me)- 28
My WH and I are attempting R without MC for the time being, because we are currently dealing with immigration stuff from South America, and in our particular area in SA we don't have the option of MC. However, within 4 months, when the visas are all lined up and we are both able to be in North America, we will be doing MC. He has loads of stuff he has just started clearing and talking about from his past that he definitely needs help with, and he is definitely open to IC, and MC. In the meantime, he took it upon himself to start reading the Mens Edition of "The Five Love Languages" ( that I had bought for him even before the A), and he is reporting to me every day with excitement, what he learned from the book. It's helping a LOT.
I have to say though, I am relieved that he is willing to go to MC when it is going to be available to us. I think it's really important.
I don't know if it's a good idea to agree to not go to MC, hopefully some others can chime in, because I'm also hoping we'll be ok for the next few months until we can begin MC.
Just based on what you've said in your other posts, I think its a really great idea if you go to IC and get some really clear ideas on what you need/want from your relationship, because if he is ~kinda, maybe~ willing to work through a R book, it sounds to me ( in my unprofessional opinion) that he DEFINITELY needs to get a handle on what's going on with him, and understand the weight of his actions, and in my experience, a great counselor can help with that.
D-Day May 1 2013
D-Day#2 Aug. 7th 2013
in R and working at it