I am new to this, all of this. I do not know all of the abbreviations yet so I apologize if this is long. I have had suspected something was going on with my husband for a while, his mother suspecting him also. I feared things were getting to a point of no return so I begged him to go to counseling with me, he refused. So I saw his mother's pastor for over a month. But there is only so many times you can tell your side of the story. I worked on the things the pastor and I talked about on my end. I thought things were on the mend. We had a family vacation planned. Then about a week or two before vacay he started acting hateful again.on vacation he was very hateful and distant. The day we returned after a 12 hour drive he left to "play poker " and came home sometime in the middle of the night. The next night was especially mean and I could tell something was up. I calles his mom the next day (who works at the same place as he and the OW) she said "he is sleeping with a coworker and it has been going on nearly a year " she explained how she knew and lots of stories and other people confirming. I jumped the gun and left, he denied everything but admitted to it when I gave him new information I had. I even talked to the soon to be ex husband of the other woman who has been married 16 years with 2 children, making her 10 years older than my husband. However NOW I am regretting not staying, because I WOULD like to go to counseling and work things out. He says it is beyond repair and doesn't feel it is worth working on even tho we have both never worked on it before.
me - wife -29
married 4 years -together nearly 9
The OW - 37 married 16 with 2 children
he and I have 1 two year old
EA -began late 2012..
affair began beginning 2013...
(If all information is correct)
I can't get off this roller coaster