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User Topic: Almost 4 months since dday #?
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Long story sorry. Recap..June 4th this year "wh" got busted by the "ow" hubby. This was his 4th affair that was actually physical that I know about. I thought things were great. He had been good for a few years. Since that day there have been other mini ddays as he has been caught texting other women saying he loves them and can't wait to have sex and blah blah blah. He claims it doesn't mean anything its just a game because they live in other states or countries. Not buying it. He was also busted on 2 dating sites with recent pics of him. Yes I snooped in his email. I even contacted one of the women myself and told her about me :) fast forward to today. I do not trust him at all..AT ALL! So he leaves and I snoop. Ugh. He is still emailing the woman I contacted! Asking if they can still "be friends" and will she visit so they can hang friends. She lives a state away. She responded that yes they can be only friends. Ugh! He is still hiding shyt from me! I know all the advice is to just leave him..but circumstances don't allow that. I have a special needs child I care for so I am a sahm. Financially I am stuck. I'm just feeling alone right now. I am brokenhearted and so depressed.

~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 85 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Wiser people than me will have good advice I'm sure. I would suggest the 180. I'm sorry :(

Me (BS): 36
Him aka narcissistic psychopath (WS): 36
Married 17 years 6 kids ages 16-7
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

Filed for divorce 5/8/15

Posts: 326 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why would you stay with him? What about him now (not the person he used to be, but the person he has become), would make you want to be with him?

He lies to you.
He's cheated on you in the past and is still continuing).
He hides things from you that he shouldn't.

Are you certain you are financially stuck? HAve you at least consulted with an attorney?

Posts: 5485 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: Chicago
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with Mousse. Consult with an attorney. Your WH will have to support his child no matter what. Please look into resources for both you and your DD. You shouldn't feel stuck. That is no way to live.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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