You'll get to meh. Be kind to yourself and remember that YOU are their mom and that she'll NEVER replace you. And puh-leeze-- they DON'T have happily ever after. How can you be happily married to someone when you have cheating as the foundation of your relationship?
And then, earlier this year, about 3 years after the divorce was final, ex married OW. My young adult boys now freely talk about "the crazy step mother" and it doesn't faze me anymore. In truth, most of it amuses me.
None of it is fair. But with time and healing, you can get to a point where it truly doesn't matter.
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
The only thing worse is the thought of someone being unkind to them.
She is not interested in them at all and as a not at all intelligent, sophisticated or mature 24 y/o who dresses like some kind of emo goth thing I'd say most people think she is their surly older step sister.
I have several iterations of her to go through over these next 16 years as do my girls. Um. Yay?