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User Topic: positive post....i can't believe
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Content  Posted: 5:19 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We all know this is a roller coaster and there are ups and downs, but I was really shocked the other day when I realized I forgot D-day for a few hours. A fantastic up swing!

Here's what happened: I made an appointment which will occur on D-Day. Didn't think about the significance of the date when I made the appointment. Later, I talked about the appointment with fWH and STILL didn't get the significance. It wasn't until hours later, when I was falling asleep, that I realized I had thought about that date twice and hadn't recalled that it was D-day. I am proud of myself, if that makes sense.

I told fWH about it the next morning. I thought he would take it as a positive step forward and he did. Even better, he knew the significance of the date when I mentioned it the day before. That is good news for me because he isn't a date person. I had warned him a few weeks ago that I might not be a great mood that day and he remembered it.

Here's the best part: I am not one year out yet. I forgot before the first anti-versary even happened.

I am taking this as the most positive evidence to date that I am healing. It is great because I was feeling so depressed for so long. Only the past 3-4 weeks have I felt like things are looking up.

For anyone new to this....I will say that the dreaded TIME did have a lot to do with getting here. Also, a remorseful fWH who will talk whenever I need. And, finally, this forum has been invaluable. I also found a good IC that I started seeing a few months ago.

Thanks for listening, everyone. I am sure there will be a dip on this roller coaster coming up for me, but I feel much more certain the future will be okay.

me BS
him WH
his A was in 2001, DDay confession 9/5/2012

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♀ 30024
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great, reallysad. Very happy that you are on an upswing. I have found that, with time, the down times come less and longer in between the up times.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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♂ 15902
Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 33 years, Together 40 years - Reconciled

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♂ 30369
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing the hope.

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