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User Topic: Divorce Diet!?
♀ 35874
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, August 25th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kind of random...but it hit me today that I think I've put back on all 10 pounds I lost in the "divorce diet." It came off so quickly, was off for awhile, then took about a year and no more skinny jeans! Ha! In a way I see this as positive, in that I feel happy again for the most part, and yet it's a bummer to see those pounds creep back! When you go through that, seems like everyone comments how great you look, which is likely a result of the lost weight! I am not a big person to begin with, so I'm healthy, but that was one of the perks of going through that whole mess!!

[This message edited by NWfleur at 11:58 PM, August 25th (Sunday)]

Me BS (39)
Him WS (36)
2 DS
M: 9 years (together 13)
DD: 4/10/2012
(Separated since 12/11...affair began ??!!)


Posts: 336 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you are feeling happy again!

I also got the Divorce Diet compliments and always thought to myself that I'd rather be happy and heavier!

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: NW
♀ 35229
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So weird - I only noticed it today too.

I'm usually around 65-70gs (143-154lb) - I went down to a scraggly 50kgs (110) a year after my eldest child was born. It did not suit me.

I weighed 69kgs at 8m pregnant both times. Partly because I had crazy cravings for raw veggies even half a sandwich made me feel absolutely stuffed. Partly because I was plain miserable - pregnancies were a breeze but the M I was in was awful.

I hit 50kgs again for most of last year the beginning of this year and I looked like a walking skeleton. I was still eating but something weird happens when I feel stressed. And I rage cleaned/walked... A LOT.

I weighed myself today because I noticed I was busting out of my "skinny" bras and I'm back up to 60kgs (132lb). WOOWHOO!! I look much better this size - it suits my frame and I missed my junk and my trunk!

I got lots of compliments from friends and strangers when I was Skeletor but I have been complimented far more lately.

I just feel calmer. More at peace. Off the crazy train. I'm still stressed sometimes and I've grown to love rage-cleaning. I started feeling that old glow come back towards the end of last year.

That's what people comment on now. Not "OH MY GOD you're so skinny - how do you DO it?" but "WOW - you look so happy its contagious!".

My skin is glowing, my hair is growing but, more importantly - I FEEL good inside.

I like it. I'm going to keep it.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6008 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
♀ 35874
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SBB, that is SUCH a great perspective! There is so much emphasis put on how great it is to be skinny, but if the price is misery, then why bother? I don't think I"ve weighed 110 since high school, but I'm usually a healthy weight around 125/127ish, and dropped down to 116. That's when I was getting all the compliments. But it's funny, what you said about people saying how happy and calm you look, I'm getting that now too. I'll take that over skinny any day.

Me BS (39)
Him WS (36)
2 DS
M: 9 years (together 13)
DD: 4/10/2012
(Separated since 12/11...affair began ??!!)


Posts: 336 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes, it's like a consolation prize for going through hell. I was overweight when my Ex's journey into madness began and now I'm a healthy weight.

I lost 45lbs in 3 months or so and I had to literally force myself to eat because no matter how long it had been since my last meal I didn't get to the point of hunger and was repulsed by the thought of putting food in my mouth. That has never happened to me before. I LOVE food and usually I eat more when stressed. But I think the sorrow of what was going on blocked out every ounce of joy including the joy of eating.

Now I'm a healthy weight and in the addition to the 45 lbs of fat, I lost 260+ pounds of idiot so my appetite has come back lately.

I've had to be very conscious of what I'm eating now and sometimes I miss the days of "forgetting" to eat. But I'd rather be hungry and happy (or even happy and fat!) than a miserable skinny person with a jackass husband acting as an appetite suppressant.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmm...I lost a bunch in the months after dday, then gained a lot of it back and now seem to be back losing without really trying. This is over the course of 18 months.

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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I lost a bunch of weight after d-day but gained it all back plus more after I left my XH. Being able to eat all the stuff I could never have with XH around (OMG... pizza with mushrooms) was awesome. Plus I tend to graze a lot when I am depressed. It was bad.

12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.

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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is happening to me too!
Actually I lost about 40lbs for myself and then hubby and looked the best I had in a decade after three kids and many deployments and years of loneliness....funny that stupid twit started his affair w a fat ass the year I got back to being skinny? Lol
Anyways; as I was getting sad; depressed; gas lighted towards the very end of my marriage I put back on about 15 lbs. then he left me for the mow hooka and for the first time in my life EVER I couldn't eat. Like at all. Went days upon days with absolutely no food; only protein shakes, and my sister and bro in law would make me eat a meal every week at their house. Never has that happened; usually a stress eater. Broken heart and fear is a scary and horrible diet! I've put on about 10lbs and I'm happy where I am and look good and feel good. Crazy crazy diet!

Posts: 662 | Registered: Aug 2011
♂ 31891
Member # 31891
Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Down 22lbs and keeping it off, so far.

The other day I saw a lady I hadn't seen in about two years. Back then she was very attracted to me but I was M's so that was about it.
She told me how great I looked, and what my secret? Told her I was in the middle of a D. She told me she was sorry,WW was a fool and I "looked the hottest ever". Turns out she has a boyfriend. Story of my life lately. Just can't catch a break.

Posts: 486 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Maryland
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