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User Topic: What should I say???
Waiting@home
♀ 24792
Member # 24792
Shocked  Posted: 2:32 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What should I say to a man, 16 years my junior, who has been working for me, doing auto repair, home repair, and general handyman stuff for a year now, who just told me of his love for me? I am dumbfounded! He did this by text actually, when I went out to pick up auto parts for a repair he was working on for me.

He started texting about how he couldn't keep his feelings to himself any longer and that I must know. Since then, he has waxed poetic all weekend, making remarks about my "breathtaking" smile. I didn't answer.

Friday, the day of the initial text, I told him that he felt like family. I don't like being put in a position whereby I must hurt his feelings, but it appears that I have no choice. I will see him today. I suppose that I will say that I don't share the same feelings and that will not change.


BS-me
DD1 Dec 13, 2008 EA
DD2 April 15, 2009 EA
M 17 yrs
Divorced the WXH


Posts: 321 | Registered: Jul 2009
movingforward13
♀ 38405
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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just let him know he's too young and that is isn't anything personal


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 643 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
cmego
♀ 30346
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I woud say that you are flattered, but the feelings aren't mutual. You like him, but see him as a YOUNGER brother. Obviously, I would have this conversation in private, then suggest you take some distance from each other if you can.


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4215 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Being totally honest, I would probably find a new handyman.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13862 | Registered: Jul 2011
Waiting@home
♀ 24792
Member # 24792
Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish it were that simple; however, I just invested in a project outside of his handyman realm, whereby, he was going to use my barn with it's hoist to complete a project that would realize a gain for us both. Meanwhile, I have $2900 tied up and if he walks now, I haven't any way to complete the project, plus I don't need any additional clutter on my property.

I'm hoping that he can keep his mind occupied and finish the repair of my cars and finish the project, at which point, not working here would be fine.

Meanwhile, I have hired another man to build ranch fence and repair my barns. Luckily, I found him last week, standing in line behind me at the bank. How fortunate!


BS-me
DD1 Dec 13, 2008 EA
DD2 April 15, 2009 EA
M 17 yrs
Divorced the WXH


Posts: 321 | Registered: Jul 2009
Bloomsday
♂ 40275
Member # 40275
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Meanwhile, I have hired another man to build ranch fence and repair my barns. Luckily, I found him last week, standing in line behind me at the bank.

(very dry SI humor alert) ^^^ Now you're just bragging.

Congrats. Introduce Skippy to someone his own age.


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