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Too_Trusting posted 8/26/2013 06:33 AM

Saw this today and felt like it perfectly sums up why sorry just isn't enough in infidelity:

simplydevastated posted 8/26/2013 06:38 AM

This is perfect!

In my opinion when they say "for what it's worth" before the sorry just demeans it even more.

AStar posted 8/26/2013 06:38 AM

I understand this perfectly. Sorry, remorse or being absolutely perfect H after an EA is not enough for me.
It can not be fixed - ever. Scars remain. So no thanks, I have difficulty even trying to fix something I didnt break.

olwen posted 8/26/2013 07:54 AM

I saw this on facebook a few weeks ago and showed it to H as it expressed my feelings on the matter exactly.

He paused for a minute looking sad and said "that's so true, I get what you're saying - but isn't it my job to get the superglue and try to mend it as best I can?"

I was pretty touched by that but also saddened that we have to mend the broken plate in the first place.

Too_Trusting posted 8/26/2013 09:15 AM

olwen, your WS has the right idea. I posted this because many WS (mine included ) reach for the "sorry card" and think that will make it better.

Once you have shattered someone's heart and trust into a million pieces, sorry doesn't mean a thing without that GLUE.

cancuncrushed posted 8/26/2013 12:42 PM

This was probably silly, but it really came from my heart. I told my H to never, ever, apologize again. Ever. The word sorry, means nothing, and he seemed to be so free afterward. It makes me violent.

crazyblindsided posted 8/26/2013 12:55 PM

I feel the same way and my WH has said it a million different ways. I know that must be frustrating for him too.

I always thought I hated the vase idea because I didn't want there to be cracks

So I am trying to look at this like a bone that breaks. When it grows back, it grows back even stronger.

RedRose posted 8/26/2013 21:36 PM

I love this quote!

Olwen, it sounds like your H really gets it!

It is really frustrating to hear "sorry" all the time but not have him really get it.

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