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User Topic: Haunts me...
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Default  Posted: 7:44 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Remembering how wh touched me during the time he was having sex with mow...when he touched me I felt compared, like he was sizing me up. The way he looked at me...

Wh is adamant he didnt compare us. Bullshit.

I remember saying to him then that he was acting odd and I touching me "different" wow! How stupid I was and trusting just blows my mind.

He had just been with her. He was sleeping with two women. I didnt know but mow did. It still disgusts me, makes me so angry and haunts me when he touches me.

exwh- multiple affairs from 2008-2015
Divorced him.

Posts: 1157 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
♀ 28979
Member # 28979
Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mow knew he was screwing her and me. Wtf kind of woman does that?!

I know she knew because on dday I found text of them arguing. Her obviously pissed he was screwing me. His wife. What a joke. Him throwing in her face that she screwing her h too! What kind of fucked up people do that and seriously have that conversation!

I will never understand. I hate them both.

Edit to fix sp

[This message edited by sunflowergirl30 at 7:48 AM, August 26th (Monday)]

exwh- multiple affairs from 2008-2015
Divorced him.

Posts: 1157 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
♀ 34755
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husbads LTA told him he could have me at home, her at work. She had no problems sharing apparently.

Though sometimes glimpses of jealousy came out. She would ask when we last had sex sometimes, if he couldn't finish for her, then get upset.

BS - Me
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking

Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
♀ 25218
Member # 25218
Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


My wh didn't actually have sex with OW but she knew me...I actually am the one that got her hired at the office. Her life was turned upside down this past May and she left her husband. My WH started texting her at that time...first to make sure she was ok from the car accident, then it quickly changed. She even said to him multiple times in texts "I know you love your wife", "I don't usually sleep with married men, but you make me want to cross the line" "I don't want to break up your family" and then in the next texts it was "I want you to fuck me so hard...I want to feel you". When they were together at her place the very first time, she moved her pants down a bit so he could see her thongs. The second time, she lifted her shirt a bit to expose a belly ring (which before my WH told me he found repulsive but I guess now he finds it sexy) and slowly turned her back to him. The third time they met, nothing happened because her daughter was inside and they were outside having a beer. The fourth time, she lifted her top and bra up and held them with her chin so he could see that she had fake tits (sorry if TMI). He told me that they didn't move even after she put her arms down. He has always told me that once he knew a girl had a boob job it would turn him off. When I found out about all this I told him that maybe I should go and get a boob job (I don't need it nor want it), and a belly ring (wouldn't be able to do that either since I don't even have my ears pierced). But it made me angry. So I can totally relate to how you feel about feeling that your WH was comparing you. The OW actually told my WH to "be intimate with your wife"...this is a sign of someone who is so screwed up in her own life and I am so glad that my WH has had NC with her since this all came out.

Me (BW) 42
Him (WH)46
DDay #1 - 9/9/06 - internet and met 4 times - no sex but kissing and touching
DDay #2 - 7/24/09 - chatted online with a couple of girls for about 1-2 weeks
DDay #3 - 7/26/13 - found out he was sexting and met up with someone

Posts: 53 | Registered: Aug 2009
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He didn't kiss me for weeks, even during sex. He had no problem kissing her during the same time period, though. I confronted him on it, and he acted like he hadn't noticed he wasn't kissing me.

WH - 38
2.5 year LTA
2nd A 2/20/16

Posts: 164 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, August 26th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the last year, WH was into some new sex positions that were interesting but decidedly "non-intimate" in the emotional way. It was a passing "hmmm" at the time. Now I look back and wonder if this was stuff he was trying with her, and if he just couldnt "face me". Haunts me too.

True remorse isn't followed by a "but".

Posts: 1809 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Alberta
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH started saying "Can I cum in you?", which was something he never said before the A. He would ask if he could cum (as-in would I be upset if I didn't get to and he did), but the "in you" part was new. I did find it odd at the time since a) we're married and I've never had a problem with it before and b) it's not like he was worried about me getting pregnant again since I have an IUD. I'm thinking he asked his slut that question when they were slutting together. Ick.

Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner

Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
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