i still need to talk the A out, but WH is unwilling to discuss it anymore.
he wants everything to be normal again, and will not talk about the A
we spent the first year or 2 of R working on HIM... getting him off drugs and treatment for bipolar, getting him a new job (fired from 2) ... you get the idea. Rebuilding HIM.
Our marriage was in the crapper when this happened anyway, so when we lived together again, it wasn't like we were worse off than before the A.
I lived with him because he moved to a new town for a new job, and it made sense financially.
Well, i think he figures he got me back, everythings cool.. No. I want to work on our marriage, but he wont
I told him, I will stay and use you (for money, so we dont have to share the kids, etc) but that I am gone if things dont get better.
He just gets upset when I talk about divorce or laughs like i am joking.