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nekorb posted 8/26/2013 08:42 AM

So...overall I'm sucking at the 180.

BUT the one thing I've done really well at the last two days is not bringing up the marriage/issues/affair etc at all.

What I have found is that the less I talk about it, the more he does!

So...I guess that's a good thing!

1ost0ne posted 8/26/2013 09:45 AM

nekorb. If the WS is talking, that's a plus. When I mess up, I reread the 33 steps and start over. Remember, the 180 is about you feeling better about yourself. If you are able to not dwell on the A, then in reality, you are getting better.

broken0912 posted 8/26/2013 14:31 PM

I started trying the 180 last night. Very hard, and after he went to sleep I went in the other room and cried, loud heaving sobs for 30 minutes in the middle of the floor until 4am before going to sleep.

A question I have is am I supposed to withhold affection or sex? That sounds wrong.

jjct posted 8/26/2013 18:55 PM

nekorb - You're doing well, take it easy on yourself and practice practice practice.

On the affection and sex question, well...how about reading it again

http://survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11

and see how it feels while you're reading it.

Edit:
Just bumped some good threads - the ones with the "target" icons.

[This message edited by jjct at 7:01 PM, August 26th (Monday)]

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