BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
You will detach kg. It takes time.
Please be careful switching nights in a hotel, that at some point she doesn't lock you out, saying you abandoned the home. I know it's hard, but you really should see a lawyer and get something written up so you don't get screwed out of your house, belongings, or whatever else.
In the mean time, do something nice for you. Something to help you stay calm. Exercise, walk, beat a punching bag. And please make sure you eat something. Drink water. It's important to look after you through this.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.