I am currently a little more than a month away from the 1yr anniversary of DDay#1.
I thought that by now, R would be well under way and that things would be showing improvement (DDay#3 was 5mos ago). On the contrary, WW is preoccupied with some changes occurring at work and is working very late which takes time away from "us". Even before the changes at her office, she has shown very little initiative to work on R. If I'm not the one pushing for us to do some reading or open a discussion.....no reading or discussion is ever done. Although she does go to IC and MC those sessions have dwindled down to once a month.
The problem I am having now is that for the past couple weeks, I have been having nightmares of WW continuing with her affairs and starting up new ones. A couple of times this has "triggered" some suspicions that her late nights of work aren't just for work. This preoccupies my mind and gets me worked up. Yesterday I woke up after one of the nightmares and it really bothered me all day. Then last night I just blew up at WW, accusing her that her pattern has been to lie to me and shut me out for 8 straight years during her affairs and asked why I should believe that she isn't lying to me now.
Anyone else experience this type of nightmares? Is it normal for dreams to be affected this late after DDay? I didn't have any dreams about WW's affairs until the last couple weeks.
Is there anything that can help with this issue?
Any input would be most welcome.