At a get together last weekend, my 75 year old BIL , widowed two years ago, joked about finding a younger woman but said that he would never get married again.
My H replied. "That's smart"
This really bugged me. Maybe I took it too personally, but I felt that he should defend marriage at this point in our recovery not knock it.
I think I over-reacted because later, I told him that he shouldn't let his disillusionment with marriage, influence comments to other people. The person in this case is so terribly lonely and would probably love to find someone to care for.
H claims he is not disillusioned with marriage. Guys sometimes talk this way to each other.
My feelings were hurt. Was I wrong?