Here, I thought of some more things; shooting is good (I don't know if you can do this in Aust., PM me if you come to California). Going to the range and blowing 9mm holes in the crotch of some man's outline would cure us both.
Drinking too much hasn't been a good way. It lets the rage out but that leads to the problem above, breaking things. So far I have broken a large crystal, a beaded curtain, lots of glassware and my hand.
Sex has been surprisingly helpful. If I can get it under wraps enough the oxytocin takes the edge off for an hour or so.
I'm not to proud to admit that I tried marijuana in the month after DDay. All that did was make me morose.
WH and I read "Love Languages" When I see him doing chores around the house (acts of service) it makes me happy and in turn I'll tell him how much I appreciate him.
Doing different things helps/eg. stuff out of the normal range where there are no triggers. Examples for me are visiting our city's Little India, going out to karaoke or Moroccan food. Afghan food was the first meal out I could keep down after DDay.
Doing something to make you feel small and connected to the universe. Swim in the ocean with dolphins, go on a star walk ( I went to visit radio telescopes, you have some good ones in Canberra). Something about that makes me feel that our lives on earth are short and we need make the best of things and not dwell on the negatives.
I hope some of this helps. I'm right there with you.