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TLhurting posted 8/27/2013 14:49 PM

Is it okay to just keep them in a cupboard until I can deal? It was a happy day for me, and frankly, there are a lot of family pictures I'd love to keep. It's just that ExWH is in them.

It's been 2 years and he's actually marrying the OW in a few weeks ( ) and it feels like it's time.

lostmommy posted 8/27/2013 14:51 PM

I saved mine so that in case J wants to look at them when he's older he can. We were happy once, and I want him to see that.

((((TL))))

EvenKeel posted 8/27/2013 14:57 PM

I kept mine..from both marriages.

I figure it was apart of my life - just can't erase it.

gma56 posted 8/27/2013 15:06 PM

I took a few of me with my family but gave the rest to FT in one of his boxes.

click4it posted 8/27/2013 15:24 PM

Put them in boxes out of sight. Seal them with duct tape. Then its sealed, can't get to them easy and its "away".

It might be tempting to toss or burn them in light of his upcoming new marriage ...but later on you might wish you had kept them.

(((((hugs)))

persevere posted 8/27/2013 16:09 PM

I still have them, they are in the albums in a box. I will mess with it if and when I decide I want to. Otherwise, I won't.

It's your call TLH.

cmego posted 8/27/2013 16:15 PM

I don't know what happened to mine...I left them all at the house when I moved out. I've never asked what he did with them.

Crescita posted 8/27/2013 16:34 PM

I just pared mine down a bunch whenever I was in a good mind frame to do so. I couldn't bring myself to toss the lot as there are pictures of people I care about in the mix. I'm not even sure where they are at the moment but the idea of them no longer upsets me.

Dreamboat posted 8/27/2013 16:55 PM

I avoid them like the plague.

When X moved out I put them with his other shit. Then my parent's passed away and my sister gave all that they had -- and it was A LOT. When she gave them to me I pushed them away and said I didn't want them and she pushed them back and said that DD may want them someday. So I carted them home and set them in a corner and 4 years later that is where they sit. And oh yeah, the wedding dress -- same exact story. ugh

forced2moveon posted 8/27/2013 17:00 PM

I saved mine for my kids. I have them in a photo box high on a shelf in my closet along with my wedding/engagement rings. I'll give them to my boys when they're older.

wildbananas posted 8/27/2013 17:49 PM

I too saved mine for the banana bunch. They never see their father and don't really like him, like, at all, but maybe they'll want them someday.

Sad in AZ posted 8/27/2013 18:00 PM

I kept a picture of me dancing with my father and a picture of my parents together. I gave the X his parents, a few others that I don't remember and one of him & his groomsmen; I told him maybe he could have my brother airbrushed out of it

Williesmom posted 8/27/2013 18:04 PM

I kept mine. Last year, the guy that I was dating asked to see them, so we went through them and made fun of my 80's hair and my wxh's mullet. It was cathartic.

I'm glad that I kept them because those are the last pictures that I have of my grandparents.

kernel posted 8/27/2013 18:47 PM

I have everything in a box somewhere. At the time, I put them away and figured I would deal with them later. Later hasn't arrived yet.

I.will.survive posted 8/27/2013 19:27 PM

I couldn't imagine throwing wedding pictures away! So many friends and relatives that are captured there.

I have ZERO desire to look at them and they are boxed up for my son who may one day be curious. Plus, I'm sure relatives will have passed on by then and having these memories will be a good thing.

Besides, the man I married is in those pictures. Not the man I divorced.

ruinedandbroken posted 8/27/2013 20:19 PM

I put them all in the attic and there they will stay, unless one of my kids wants them.

vivere posted 8/27/2013 20:28 PM

Besides, the man I married is in those pictures. Not the man I divorced.

Brilliant!

jjct posted 8/27/2013 21:00 PM

My vain hope was in those pictures.
My dope.
Everybody here is so ahead of me I hope.

I cut them out with fined knife, to hide
my past lost picture's pain,

and fear though I lost picture's hope,
it will repeat again.

Nothing I can do will change the past.

SBB posted 8/27/2013 21:16 PM

I gave them all to the sad clown except for one group photo (it was a small wedding of 10) should the girls ever want to see it. It's put away where I'll never accidentally come across it.

My only regret is giving him any of me on my own because the fucker put one up "proudly on display for all who come into my home to see" according to him.

Oh so creepy.

lynnm1947 posted 8/28/2013 09:53 AM

Keep them. Put them away somewhere you don't have to see them all the time. Keep them because if you have kids, they may some day want them. You are the mommy and your XH is their daddy, regardless.

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