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Nurse100749 posted 8/27/2013 15:15 PM

Well where do I start? I've been married 14 years have 4 kids and I have tried my hardest to be the best wife I can be. My husband has cheated on me several times. Lots of emotional affairs and 3/4 affairs. He moved our family to another state so we can start over and we r here 3 mo and he is screwing a skank 11 years younger (total office slut). So what am I to do. I'm stuck here with no family and a cheating husband.

nekorb posted 8/27/2013 15:16 PM

(((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry. I wish I had advice, but I'm kind of new here myself. So, I'll offer virtual hugs and chocolate.

heartache101 posted 8/27/2013 15:26 PM

(((nurse100749)))

Do you work?? Can you kick him out?? Start there.
If you don't work can you pack you and the kids up to go back home where family is?

Read on the Healing Library. Work on you now.
Obviously you love him but right now you need to go too survival mode. Find a lawyer and find out your rights in that state. That is the first thing I would do. I would move all monies where he has no access to it. Just to be safe. With 4 kids you can't have an irresponsible person with the monies!
I am soo sorry. I wish I had more answers for you.

Take care of yourself. Don't sleep with him!! Go to a doctor and get tested for STDs..

Drink plenty of fluids eat well and exercise.

Skan posted 8/27/2013 15:28 PM

Wlecome. I'm sorry that you had the reason to come find us, but I am so glad that you DID find us. We're all here to support you.

First off, take a look at the upper left corner of your screen, for a yellow box. Click on The Healing Library which is in the box. Start reading. Also, any post on this forum that has a bulls-eye on it is also something that you need to read. These are all good articles written by people who have been there and done that. Knowledge is power, so please start reading.

Next, I would highly recommend that you make an appointment with a divorce lawyer and find out, exactly, what your rights are for child support, spousal support, etc. You don't have to act on that knowledge, but again, knowledge is power and you need to be as knowledgable as possible. Your WH is obviously not repentant at all and has no intention of being faithful to you. So you need to start figuring out what your legal options are.

Please come back and post for support. We're all here for you. (((hugs)))

TxsT posted 8/27/2013 19:03 PM

NURSE...

I am sorry that you have a situation that hurts you beyond words. To me he is showing a pattern, one that doesn't seem to be going away. I would personally give him only 1 option at this point....get into IC/MC immediately. Understand why he has a need to do this. From there you can figure out if you want to stay or not.

I would also be getting myself away from him and going closer to those who love you. Your kids need to be stable, they need love, you may or may not be in any shape to do that completely and your family can fill in the gaps.

T

TxsT posted 8/27/2013 19:03 PM

NURSE...

I am sorry that you have a situation that hurts you beyond words. To me he is showing a pattern, one that doesn't seem to be going away. I would personally give him only 1 option at this point....get into IC/MC immediately. Understand why he has a need to do this. From there you can figure out if you want to stay or not.

I would also be getting myself away from him and going closer to those who love you. Your kids need to be stable, they need love, you may or may not be in any shape to do that completely and your family can fill in the gaps.

T

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