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User Topic: Out to Play or Screwed Up? Poll.
libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Question  Posted: 5:48 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What's your opinion on my fWH??

For 3 years and 8OW that I know of, my recovering alcoholic H says he was a drunk and did bad things.

So, fastforward to my survival and comprehension of these matters, does it sound like he went out to play now wants to be a family man or he's seriously screwed up??

What do you all think??

No offense to others, but I honestly feel it would be a little bit better if it were just one OW or person he loved. But, 8 OW, that I know of in 3 years???

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 5:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]


Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

Posts: 972 | Registered: Apr 2013
whattheh
♀ 40032
Member # 40032
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've read true lasting reconciliation is less likely to be successful with a serial cheater?

But some have pulled it off...

[This message edited by whattheh at 6:27 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]


M over 30 yrs-in R with fWH who cheated at 27.5 years of M
Mult MOW-CL,AM for NSA sex
Multiple DDs 2013-15 due to TT and lying during R (not more phys cheating after jan 2013 DD1)
Passed polyg test
Being stalked sev yrs BPD/NPD CL slut

Posts: 1186 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Kierst13
♀ 39197
Member # 39197
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So he is blaming his affairs on drinking?


Story in my profile
He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

Posts: 347 | Registered: May 2013
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I see what your saying..if he fell for.one ow it is a diff sich than ons?? With 8.ow..were they ons? Or did he have a R with them?
I think substance abuse / alcohol is a
whole other ballgame. Not to excuse him at all but he uses poor judgement while drinking and maybe he wouldn't if he were sober. I may be the minority but I have a lot of addicts in my life and tend to have compassion for them. When he has been sober for a length of time, did he cheat then?


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

Posts: 972 | Registered: Apr 2013
libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

Posts: 972 | Registered: Apr 2013
libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

Posts: 972 | Registered: Apr 2013
libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, August 27th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He had relationships, he was literally dating women, hanging out with them, drinking, hotels, dates, etc. and blames it on alcohol.


Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.

Posts: 972 | Registered: Apr 2013
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok well then my answer is out to.play. Screw up once..maybe but 8 R 's? I'd say it would be quite a gamble with him.


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Topic Posts: 9

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