This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
He lives 2 hrs away, so we have only called/text each other. We have never been physical.
You have just described 3 of my 4 APs.
Bottom line is, it doesn't matter. You are still cheating. I think a lot of people get really hung up on the PA vs. EA thing. And yeah, my husband is thrilled that another man didn't touch me. But he is absolutely shattered that I closed my heart off to him and freely gave it to 4 other men. That blows big time for him. And he is heartbroken about it.
We were discussing it one day and he said, "You know, I think that I'm glad you were never physical. I can't really imagine how the pain from that would feel. Because I only have the pain of emotional affairs to gauge it by. And that can't be accurate. They are two separate things entirely."
If you justify that "you've never been physical", you are discounting that you are betraying your husband and the pain that he feels. Trust me, been there, done that. It's malarkey.
I know I have to cut ties permanently...I'm trying, but its not easy.
As the little green guy said, "Do, or do not. There is no try.
Crushed, you are worth more than this. You are better than this. Do not accept crappy ego kibbles from a loser dude that will gladly hurt another man by emotionally stealing his wife. Do not sell yourself so easily.
PM if you need anything.
[This message edited by Aubrie84 at 8:27 PM, August 27th (Tuesday)]
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