I have only known for almost three weeks of girlfriends affair. She was drunk when the event occured and I am willing to forgive and try to still make this work. I only had two questions for her in order to move on and I feel as though this is drastically holding up the process.
The first one that I asked her was why the person that she did and she explained the situation and occurance on how it had happened.
Then I asked her why did she do it? The only answer that she was able to give me was that she was selfish. I told her that that would be describing herself at the time however it does not tell me what needs work in our relationship to prevent this from occuring again.
She has since started AA and has not had a drop of alcohol since. She tells me that she does not have an answer to my question. Is this an honest normal response that many of you have received in the past? I want to move forward and try to salvage an 8 year relationship but I feel that I cant without knowing this or am I going to far in depth with the questions?
Any advice or comments welcome please!