So, a mountain of fuckery has happened since I last posted. The latest and last straw was a picture that was sent to me of the WS and his sidepiece posing at an event…looking all happy go lucky. This didn’t anger me. But it did irritate me! WHY does he keep acting like she is horrible, but they out in the streets kicking it and dating and ish? So, I forwarded the pic and told him we need to stop playing and end this now, civilly and like adults, as he is clearly having fun. I am sitting here acting married, and he isn’t, so lets end this so we can both be free to roam. He simply says, OK. GREAT!...well, not really, but I can deal. Monday, he says he feels horrible about everything, Me: WE will both be fine regardless.
Tuesday, he lets me know that I can call him if I need anything. Me: no response, Then later that day, sends this:
Him: What if I told you I need you to move in with me to help me with my oldest girls?
After an hour of thought, Me: What can I help you with that does not involve me moving in? After school stuff, keeping them until you get off work? Would you like to sign them up for my track team? …..No response from him.
Then he messages me saying that the side piece called the police on him and he might go to jail, so could I help. (Keep in mind, this same woman has done this to him before we were married. My male cousins have said, its her version of control. So while he felt restricted being married, he simply made a lateral shift to a more manipulative, version of restriction I.E. (if he doesn’t do what she wants, she calls the police). Me: no response. He then says, he will go make a police report, but if they keep him, can I get his kids to school in the morning…Me: I can do that.
Now, all the while, I am praying, and crying, that whatever solution is to come, is something that I don’t have to have anything to do with. I prayed that he wouldn’t need my help at all, and that by 8pm that day, I would get word that everything is all good. Imagine, it was!!! YAY!!
So after that comes the texts: Thank you for always being there for me, so glad you are my wife…gonna hate to lose you…(me, no response)….then 3 hours later, I guess a divorce is best, I suppose…(me, no response).
My granny says the bible says, “a double minded man is unstable in all his ways”… I think that is what I am dealing with here….gonna continue this version of the 180 and feed him with a long handled spoon….