I love this post:
For me, this is 100% the case, but in the end it didn't matter. It's not the AP that makes or breaks the relationship, its the WS.
SheHatesMe, please keep your forward momentum going by working on yourself and digging deep to find the reasons why you did what you did. Be consistent with your BS. Let her know she is safe with you. Check in with her when you aren't around. Ask her what triggers her. Work on yourself but pay attention to her too.
The bad days are always going to be there, with or without you being together. This is a long journey, but I hope you work hard to fix what is broken.