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User Topic: am i weak
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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

after finding out i was in false R being i didnt have the real story just the fact that he cheated i feel im back at day one. oddly on dday i wanted him badly to reclaim i guess, this time im so low i can barely say anything to him . this will be the third night out the house and im just numb i thought i could believe him i was wrong he was a crazy good lair but no match for my ability to find shit out it may take a while but i do. i wanted to leave and though it felt right when i saw him with the girls crying and the heark breaking words from my 4 year old " daddy ill always be here for you dont cry , mommy is just mad but its ok" it felt wrong . HE could contain himself sobbing and disgusted , so he wrote me a letter today ill post later he hasnt wrote me in years , im lost confused i dont know if i love him or feel obligated anymore. i really dont like to see him hurting but seeing him cry ...thank the lord he has a soul (never cries EVER)



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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No you are not weak. Many of us have experienced false R. You wanted to believe what your WH was telling you because you love him and trusted him. Mine did the same. I did not get the full info until 6 months later, which I found on my own and when I confronted with it he had no choice, the truth was in his face.

Take your time. I think you are strong for making him leave the house. Keep up the great work and watch his actions. Mine gave me tears and he never cries but then broke NC with MOW so I'm not sure how genuine my WH's tears actually were.

BS/FWS (me):43 Madhatter
WS/BS:46 Serial Cheater
Together 20 years, Married 15
DD(13) DS(10)
DDay(s) Too many to count
False R 7/11/14 Same OW2
"Never seek validation from those who are unworthy."

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