And then... DD has kindergarten orientation tomorrow. I attended both of my sons' orientations. XWH never did and never expressed any interest. He also has NO clue that he needs to bring all the school supplies and filled-out forms at that time, which I have and will bring. However, Mr. Photo Opportunity (or Mr. PO, since he does make me POed at times) says to me, "How about if I drop the boys with you and take DD to the orientation alone since you've already met the teacher?"
HA HA HA. Right. Like I'd not only miss my youngest child's orientation but that I'd put together all of the supplies and paperwork for you and then just turn it over so that you can look like Dad of the Year. He never once indicated in any way that he'd like to help buy supplies or fill out anything. I would have gladly let him help. I informed him that, no, I'd meet him there at the appointed time. I have no problem with him coming, but I'm not staying home because he wants to do... what? Bring the Owife since her daughter has orientation as well? So bring her. They don't have the same teacher, so we don't need to cross paths.
But I can't help but wonder... is this just about doing what his parents think is right, and/or doing damage control to his image, which I think are his usual motivations-- talking to the IC, taking faux responsibility for one of our children's activities-- or is this part of some larger game plan? What are you up to, XWH? Why the big interest right now?
Sigh. 13 more years of playing this game.
He's got her on the one side demanding that he make his "new family" happy. He's got his kids on another side shining that mirror in his face, you know the one that he never expected while he thought they would just accept that he decided to demolish their family. He's got his own family clicking thier tongues at his behavior. And, finally, he has you expecting him to fly straight and do right by his kids.
He's floundering or as I say about my ex, doggie paddling through life. It's only gonna get worse and he's too stupid to see.
So, these feeble attempts at trying to look like dad of the year? I say, whatever. He's nothing but a fake and he knows it. Like the typical WS, he'll do what makes him feel better about himself as long as there is no real effort.
I mean, sheesh, he married the first bitch he scored off of ashley madison, right? This guy is not the sharpest tool in the shed...
Harsh, Tesla. And, like, 8000% true.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
It was like sitting with three children. He was trying so hard to be super cool dad, and he was being so immature. It was almost embarrassing; I was glad that we weren't seated closely to anyone else.
Anyway, there was no point to him being there, and when I drove my car over to where he was parked so that I could get my kids' stuff, the Owife was standing several feet away rather pathetically (and STILL looks like she stepped out of a bad 80s fashion spread) with her two kids, who stared at me like they were experiencing a Bigfoot sighting. It was kind of funny, actually. Here goes XWH with his second family to orientation! I hope people noticed and thought he was a pig.
My family has long thought that XWH is bipolar (though he would never admit to that and would never get treated), and one family member speculated that this sudden burst of interest in the kids might be because he's in a manic phase. It does make sense when I think about it, and I'm glad that I'm not the one who will have to deal with him when he eventually crashes again into a depressive phase. Have fun, Owife! Hope you can "meet his needs" during that part of his personality's roller coaster ride!
Thanks for your responses. Tesla, you totally crack me up!
[This message edited by tryingagain74 at 11:04 AM, September 1st (Sunday)]
"I will take DS to(insert event here), so you can have a break"
everything he does is calculated to make himself look like the super cool wonderful dad.
I have DS pretty much 90% of the time. His idea of giving me a break is taking DS out for 2.5 hours and then bringing him home...not even enough time to take in a movie...thanks for the break.lol
THey can be such nads