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User Topic: Month 4 - feeling down and more lies...
♀ 39415
Member # 39415
Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am feeling very very low. In addition to the A, I have been caring for my injured mom and fighting with my siblings. I feel homeless. WH divulged some new lies last weekend. Smaller ones - not full blown As. But they were flirty relationships with other women over the years that he concealed. Prior to that I had packaged the A as an anomaly. 3 months of abnormal behavior. Now it seems that it may have been pretty normal and I am questioning how I even fell in love with him.

Our MC says to ride it out. That the depression is a phase and that I should not make any decisions right now.

I guess I don't really have a question - just wanted to share. I feel quite alone in all of this. Oh, and we are going on vacation next week just the two of us.

Posts: 194 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 12802
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like you need some down time.

You don't have to make any decisions right now...Keep an eye on the depression though. A phase will pass, but sometimes it sticks around.

He did tell you the truth, which is a good thing. Hopefully he'll continue doing good and you'll be able to start healing as well.

you are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice. *a universal paradox

Posts: 14917 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have a hell of a lot on your plate right now. Please find some time to be kind to yourself. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 6293 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
♀ 25364
Member # 25364
Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your family situation is very similar to mine this year. I really struggled with this Bc the stress of my mom and family fighting intensified the A stress, bringing it back to the forefront.

Then I felt guilty for focusing and thinking so much about A when I had so much more severe family issues going on.

I just am wishing you strength to get through it all. Hugs and good luck.

In R? But how do you know it isn't another pack of lies?

Posts: 482 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: NY
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