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Topic: Month 4 - feeling down and more lies...

CatchyUsername
♀ 39415
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Posted: 5:53 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013

I am feeling very very low. In addition to the A, I have been caring for my injured mom and fighting with my siblings. I feel homeless. WH divulged some new lies last weekend. Smaller ones - not full blown As. But they were flirty relationships with other women over the years that he concealed. Prior to that I had packaged the A as an anomaly. 3 months of abnormal behavior. Now it seems that it may have been pretty normal and I am questioning how I even fell in love with him.

Our MC says to ride it out. That the depression is a phase and that I should not make any decisions right now.

I guess I don't really have a question - just wanted to share. I feel quite alone in all of this. Oh, and we are going on vacation next week just the two of us.

Posts: 191 | Registered: Jun 2013

unfound
♀ 12802
Member # 12802

Posted: 6:44 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013

Sounds like you need some down time.

You don't have to make any decisions right now...Keep an eye on the depression though. A phase will pass, but sometimes it sticks around.

He did tell you the truth, which is a good thing. Hopefully he'll continue doing good and you'll be able to start healing as well.

ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

Posts: 14892 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob

Skan
♀ 35812
Member # 35812

Posted: 10:22 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013

You have a hell of a lot on your plate right now. Please find some time to be kind to yourself. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 5461 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California

guarded
♀ 25364
Member # 25364

Posted: 8:37 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013

Your family situation is very similar to mine this year. I really struggled with this Bc the stress of my mom and family fighting intensified the A stress, bringing it back to the forefront.

Then I felt guilty for focusing and thinking so much about A when I had so much more severe family issues going on.

I just am wishing you strength to get through it all. Hugs and good luck.

In R? But how do you know it isn't another pack of lies?

Posts: 451 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: NY

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