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User Topic: 20 year Anniversary today
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow I was not sure how I would feel today. I feel like it is any other day. It is not a special day anymore. I could care less the it is 20 years. I am two plus years out for Dday and I am struggling with do I even love this man. My marriage will never be the same because of his crappy decision to have an affair with my friend. Of corse I did not get him a card because he has not always been here for me. I never get cards anymore.

BS me
WS him
OW my former friend and neighbor
Dday 1 2/20/11
Dday 2 3/08/11
Two little ones
Married 19 years
Together 26 years

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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry lhb.

you are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice. *a universal paradox

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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel the same as you, Im coming up to 22,soon, and this is the first year i really dont want to celebrate, it hit me last year we were away, but i felt different, I have changed, well he changed how i am with him, i cant be bothered, its another day, that its a countdown that i cant wait until it passes, its sad, but i go and have a nice lunch and celebrate the strong, committed woman I am and buy myself a treat or have a pedicure from his money anyway its all about me now celebrate the beautiful person you are xo

ME:BW42 HIM:WS40 MARRIED19years 2Teens DdayFeb2009.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


We had our 20th this summer too. What a bittersweet day it was - our anniversary is now a trigger for me. The people that don't know think it's so great that we made 20 years, our friend tells us how lucky we are, that we're a "marriage role model" to him! To me it was just another day. I hate what the affairs have stolen from me.

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