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User Topic: 20 year Anniversary today
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow I was not sure how I would feel today. I feel like it is any other day. It is not a special day anymore. I could care less the it is 20 years. I am two plus years out for Dday and I am struggling with do I even love this man. My marriage will never be the same because of his crappy decision to have an affair with my friend. Of corse I did not get him a card because he has not always been here for me. I never get cards anymore.

BS me
WS him
OW my former friend and neighbor
Dday 1 2/20/11
Dday 2 3/08/11
Dday 3 3/05/14 {Fully Disclosed every lie}
Two little ones
Married 19 years at the time of dday 1

Posts: 199 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, August 28th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry lhb.

Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."

Posts: 14937 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, August 29th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel the same as you, Im coming up to 22,soon, and this is the first year i really dont want to celebrate, it hit me last year we were away, but i felt different, I have changed, well he changed how i am with him, i cant be bothered, its another day, that its a countdown that i cant wait until it passes, its sad, but i go and have a nice lunch and celebrate the strong, committed woman I am and buy myself a treat or have a pedicure from his money anyway its all about me now celebrate the beautiful person you are xo

ME:BW42 HIM:WS40 MARRIED19years 2Teens DdayFeb2009.

Posts: 316 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


We had our 20th this summer too. What a bittersweet day it was - our anniversary is now a trigger for me. The people that don't know think it's so great that we made 20 years, our friend tells us how lucky we are, that we're a "marriage role model" to him! To me it was just another day. I hate what the affairs have stolen from me.

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