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velvethammer posted 8/29/2013 09:20 AM

I just walked into the kitchen at work to get some coffee and get an eyeful of one married co-worker patting the ass of another married co-worker. And if that's not enough they're discussing their kids (the ones they have with their spouses) and their spouses and schedules presumably trying to figure out their next rendezvous time. Took everything to not hit them in the head with my coffee mug and scream at them for being selfish, delusional assheads. WTF?

And at work? Really? And next to the coffee machine!!! I'm averaging 2-3 hours a sleep at night and am a major coffee person so that shit pisses me off double. Has anyone gone off on other people they knew were having affairs? Friends or co-workers?

Camalus posted 8/29/2013 09:26 AM

In 1987 or '88 I fired two employees (both married) when I found out they were having an affair.

I told them if their spouses couldn't trust them then neither could I as an employer.

velvethammer posted 8/29/2013 09:58 AM

I like it!

TxsT posted 8/29/2013 10:05 AM

I can no longer tolerate anyone who is exhibiting adultery behaviour. I speak up often and tell them how much A hurts everyone involved..


tushnurse posted 8/29/2013 10:37 AM

I was fairly new at my current job, and was having lunch in the breakroom, and one of the younger girls was talking about her H and her boyfriend. I had to throw my lunch away it was so disgusting. I also said something to the effect of you should probably stop and think about the number of people who you are causing pain an grief before bragging about having a boyfriend and a husband. I walked out. She now avoids me like the plague, and luckily, I don't have to work with her in any way.

Just Yuck.
I am sorry that you had to witness that. It may be nice to let their spouses know whats up though....

PrincessPeach06 posted 8/29/2013 10:49 AM

My H is the boss and thankfully work is the one place I can trust him. *sigh*

His employee was talking about her assistant pastor who recently told his pregnant wife he was having an affair. I was soooo angry, wanted to go punch this guy then give his wife a giant hug.

AStar posted 8/29/2013 10:59 AM

It's awful!!
I had a colleague who was having an affair with our boss. Her H worked at same company in a different section. It was awful- I felt so sorry for her H. Boss and Ho-worker wouldnt care if anyone saw their secretive PDAs. Just Yuck!! Ho-worker's H punched him in the face one day in the lunch room. He got a round of applause.
Boss left to work elsewhere soon after. Ho-worker moved on to two more married men.
H divorced ho-worker and she couldn't understand why...

Lalagirl posted 8/29/2013 11:01 AM

In 1987 or '88 I fired two employees (both married) when I found out they were having an affair.
I told them if their spouses couldn't trust them then neither could I as an employer.

Where's that applause guy?

overandone posted 8/29/2013 11:25 AM

tirednconfused-Good on you,that's a great attitude and a great way to handle it!As so many affairs are conducted or at least started at work,lots of people must see or at least suspect inappropriate behaviour between their co-workers.Wouldn't take much to either have a quiet word,or contact the BS to let them know of suspicious behaviour.Anonymously if they want,but could nip a lot of affairs in the bud.After all,if we trust our spouses,and we're not there with them all day,it would be a great kindness for somebody to have the guts to do this.

newnormal posted 8/30/2013 07:16 AM

A word of caution: I had 2 skanky couples carrying on during my anger phase. I mouthed off my displeasure to coworkers. It almost got me fired because I don't know skank #1 was good friends with the top guy.

Laura28 posted 8/30/2013 07:21 AM


Love it!!!!

[This message edited by Laura28 at 7:25 AM, August 30th (Friday)]

velvethammer posted 8/30/2013 09:40 AM

Actually the BW in my story called the lab the "ho-worker" (I love that) works in and told her boss and spoke to all of her lab mates to tell them. It clearly didn't phase them or how they carry on at work. It's like they just don't care or think it's a big deal to be having affairs with married co-workers in front of everyone? I always thought that at're supposed to be Last week I walked into the data center where there are individual work stations for research as well as sofas if someone has experiments going on all hours and needs to be here but also needs some sleep. The two of them were cuddled up next to each other. Really guys?

confused615 posted 8/30/2013 10:42 AM

T/j@Laura...HARRY POTTER!!!!

That is all.

Carry on.

dontknowwhyme posted 8/30/2013 13:37 PM

While I was still in R with XW we went to a local club to watch a friend's band play. We knew pretty much everyone there. A husband of one of my XW childhood friends was there dancing fondling and kissing on someone else we went to school together with.

I tapped him on the shoulder and asked him what did he think his wife would say if she saw what he was doing. In a real shitty tone he said why you gonna tell her? I said there is no way she is not going to find out due to who all was there. I of us was going to tell her.

He then pushed me and wanted to fight. I agreed and said that we had to go outside first. On the way to the door my friends stopped him and I and he left.

His wife found out.

Thefly559 posted 8/30/2013 16:34 PM

Yes it is unbelievable how many people are cheating. It's like when you buy a new car everyone has the same car. So I am going on 5 months from d day and still in pain but much better than month one . From the beginning when I first discovered my wife in hotel . one of my best friends, I have only two really best buds that are like brothers I would die for, decided I should not go alone in case I did something stupid( I didn't I am too smart for that) so he came with me. He was there for me from the beginning we are friends 30 years I told him every detail of my life and my wife's infidelity . I cried on his shoulder on day one. I introduced him to his wife of 15 years he was one of the most real , stand up , honest guys I ever met , he has 3 kids one infant , A beautiful home , a wife who loves him since childhood . So one day about a month in I was having a bad day emotionally so he came to pick me up to hang out with him and listen to my crying as a good friend should do but for some reason he thought it was a good time to tell me that I should not be upset because " everyone is doing it" and that he is having a 6 month affair with a married woman who has two kids that he knew from high school he met on Facebook. I fucking got so angry and disappointed I felt like it was a whole betrayal again , I actually picked up the phone to call his wife that night but I chickened out . I was dumbfounded and things haven't been the same , I cut him off after 30 years , no talk or contact or visits to his home . I will not bring my kids there. It might be wrong of me but I choose how to live my life and I choose not to be around people like this But it is getting harder and harder because although it is the dumbest statement it seems to be true , at least where I am from. Everyone is doing it. Well I am not a follower never was. Always a leader and that is me. Ok got that rant out. Thanks!

Warninglight posted 8/30/2013 17:30 PM

So why not send anonymous snail mail or email to the spouses of the cheaters? Perhaps with a linkmto here or a site that explains how to catch a cheater...

ExposedNiblet posted 8/30/2013 17:50 PM

I second the motion to being careful what you say to whom.

Almost 20 years ago, back when I was a single working gal, there was one babe who was very open about her affairs. She'd talk incessantly about the 2 extra guys she had on the side. She had the nicest husband. It made me sick.

One day, I'd had enough and told her to not torture me any more with her cheating stories, that I had enough.

Later the same day, I was told by my boss to not be so "judgemental" and to keep my opinions to myself.

Seriously, I couldn't get out of that place fast enough.

So, yes, working with cheaters sucks big time, but be very careful before you complain about it.

(edited because I think faster than I can type)

[This message edited by ExposedNiblet at 5:52 PM, August 30th (Friday)]

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