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 idiot85 (original poster member #38934) posted at 3:42 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

So... My wife is due to give birth on 3rd november but last night he decided to make a break for it...

After hours in the hospital the doctor managed to persuade him to stay cooking a little longer.

The Mrs is still in hosp but she's OK- I googled and really wish I hadn't

Worrying times

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Multi famam, conscientiam, pauci verentur.

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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:44 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

idiot...

It's going to be ok...your wife is in good hands with wonderful doctors monitoring her.

I'm sending you calming thoughts

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 3:46 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

Sending positive thoughts.

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:06 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

Sending good thoughts and mojo.

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 idiot85 (original poster member #38934) posted at 4:06 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

Thank you very much.

I've been trying to keep busy but I couldn't resist googling and it freaked me right out.

They were great last night- a consultant a doc and 2 midwives rushing around, calmed the Mrs down and put a halt on things.

I think it's awful because it's one of those things that's completely out of my hands- literally nothing I could do except stand there like a lemon.

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 4:16 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

((((idiot, wife and baby))))

Sending it all your way!!

It seems like your wife is about 30 weeks now, which is still worryingly early but hopefully will cook the little one at least a little longer.

My first baby was a 32 weeker, water broke just before 32 weeks and they kept him in a few days. After he was born, he spent a month in neonatal intensive care, but he finally came out ok. (He's 19 now and getting ready to start uni in the uk).

While I was in the hospital waiting for him to be born, the doc came in and explained all of the things that could be wrong/not developed in him yet and what they would do about it if those things happened. Well let me tell you - I DID NOT NEED TO HEAR ALL OF THAT!!!!! So I understand why you want to mind-bleach out your googlings.

I also had preterm labor with DS2, but they kept him in till 38 weeks with drugs.

With DS3 I was having contractions at 26 weeks. Scary!! Then was in labor at 29 weeks. Scarier!! With a bunch of drugs and complete bedrest they kept him in till almost 36 weeks and he came home with me the next day.

It's all so very frightening. I hope you have friend/family support where you are, you will all need it.

Keeping fingers, toes and everything crossed that your little one stays inside at least until the lungs are developed.

((((idiot, wife and baby))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:23 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

((((idiot)))) I hate that helpless feeling.

If you must Google, look for and focus on the success stories. They are out there - tons of them!

Sending you, your wife, and baby tons of mojo and positive thoughts. ((((hugs))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 4:24 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

Sending everything positive your way!

AJ's MOM

Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34

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deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 4:35 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

Sending lots of positive thoughts and mojo!!

Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 4:35 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

My neighbor gave birth to a 30 weeker. She made the choice to start school a year later. I see no difference in him vs the rest of the kids his age (DD4 is the same age). He is on track for valedictorian when he graduates this year. 4 year varsity basketball player. I think she made the right decision starting him a year late-he's thrived.

Sending prayers your wee one has a bit more patience to finish baking.

Hugs for you, so hard to feel helpless.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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 idiot85 (original poster member #38934) posted at 4:50 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

I've been trying to find positive stories but i must keep skipping them- seeing these examples have defo made me feel better!

They said he's alright, there's nothing wrong that he must just be impatient and the wife's body will just go with the flow.

Thank you everyone- I'm honestly starting to chill a bit. My SIL and MIL are at the hosp now and say the wife is feeling a lot better.

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Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 4:51 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

I worked in with NICU doctors and nurses for a year and I was amazed at all they can do for premies now a days.

I would stop googling...it's going to drive you nuts.

((Idiot, Mrs. and Baby I))

Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's

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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:18 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

My neighbor gave birth to a 30 weeker. She made the choice to start school a year later.

At least for the first few years, preemies are developmentally more like babies born when the preemie was supposed to be born (rather than when the preemie is actually born), at least that's what the docs told us to expect in terms of milestones, etc.

I hope you can find more 'success' stories, I KNOW there are lots of them out there.

Glad things look to be going a bit better now.

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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click4it ( member #209) posted at 11:37 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

Sending lots of positive thoughts!

Here is a good story: my mom was born at 6 months back in the 40's!! She survived and had me.

Your wife and lil one will be just fine, I know they will

Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:47 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013

I'll add a success story for you. My niece was delivered by an emergency C-section 10 weeks early back in 1986. She weighed less than 2 lbs, and her father's wedding ring fit over her foot and hung loosely around her leg. She was tiny.

Even without benefit of the medical advances they've made in the 27 years since then, she not only survived, she thrived. Perfectly healthy, no issues at all, graduated from HS with multiple scholarships, completed college, has been involved at a national level with multiple charities, has a lovely family complete with two darling boys... she has a wonderful, healthy life.

Keep focusing on the positive.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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 idiot85 (original poster member #38934) posted at 12:11 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013

Thank you again

The medicine's working and they reckon she can come home in the morning

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:17 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013

That's FANTASTIC!

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:22 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013

Wonderful news!

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 12:24 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013

Awesome!

Another happy preemie story, just in case...

My manager at work's daughter gave birth early to a 2 lb. 3 oz. baby. She's doing well and is up to over 3 lbs. and the baby is set to come home any day.

DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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click4it ( member #209) posted at 12:26 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013

yay!!!

Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?

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