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Newlease (original poster member #7767) posted at 5:10 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013
Not to be confused with Shock and Awe.
Ok, so in getting my house ready for sale I have maxed out 2 credit cards and started a 3rd. I'm paying the minimums on them until the house sells and then I should be able to pay most of them off. Plus I will be sharing expenses with SO since I moved in with him so that will cut my expenses in half.
Still, I feel like I have a big weight hanging over me. I am an anxious person under normal circumstances and take meds, but this additional stress is starting to get to me.
Today SO calls me at work to tell me that the clutch needs to be replaced in my motorcycle. Now I LOVE that motorcycle and it's given me a lot of pleasure and therapy. So I tell him that we can just let it set until I sell the house and can afford to get it fixed.
But he said No - he is going to pay for it. $600. Plus he is paying all the bills at his house because I'm still paying the bills at my house.
I'm so used to being independent that this is causing me all kinds of stress. He said that we are a couple now and that we take care of each other. I just hate feeling like I'm not carrying my weight financially.
He's a good man - I love him very much but I don't want to take advantage of his generous nature. I will pay him back somehow - probably when the house sells.
PLEASE SEND ME SOME HOUSE SELLING MOJO!
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 5:24 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013
(((NL)))
Sending super house selling mojo.
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 5:37 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013
~~~~~ HOUSE SELLING MOJO ~~~~~~~
coming your way Newlease!!!!
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:27 PM on Thursday, August 29th, 2013
house selling mojo!
And:
He said that we are a couple now and that we take care of each other.
He's right, you know. Leaning on someone doesn't mean you are weak and dependent...
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 1:19 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
He sounds like a true gentleman who loves you.
Relax into receiving care from a good man. There are a thousand ways you 'pay him back' besides counting out the dollars and cents.
He is asking you to let him care for you, don't make it all about paying him back because that attitude creates a block to his care. You know he feels good taking care of you. Don't deny him that.
He loves you and accepting his love is NOT taking advantage or being a leach.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:56 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 7:40 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Mojo sent 
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
Newlease (original poster member #7767) posted at 2:21 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Thanks Innerlight. I just have so much trouble accepting this because every other relationship I've been in, including XWH, was all about keeping track. It was like there was an invisible score board where every favor, monetary or not, was tallied.
I love this man so I'm trying to relax into his care. But it is not easy and it does not come naturally to me.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:59 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 4:46 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
Sending you selling house mojo!
Btw, I am a licensed realtor, have lots experiences, if you need any advice, pm me I would like to help! Even tho we might not in the same states/ country. Good luck!
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
missherlots ( member #30591) posted at 3:50 AM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
Newlease,
Mucho MOJO + MOJO + MOJO = house sold.
I would do the same for you is his shoes!
to love and be loved is more than money!
I allow him to show you his love in that way.
Allow yourself to be loved by someone who is trying to show you how much he cares for you.
relax and enjoy love!!!
It really feels good, doesn't it?
my two cents
[This message edited by missherlots at 9:51 PM, September 1st (Sunday)]
Pain and suffering is part of life, but I choose to feel love and compassion for all people excluding no one.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 4:07 AM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
When you love someone and they love you, you have each other's back. Graciously let him cover your back and the time will come he'll need you to cover's his for awhile. You've been on your own for a long time NL but now you don't have to do it all alone. I couldn't be happier for you finding each other !
House selling MOJO !!!
Hugs
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
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