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Newlease posted 8/29/2013 11:10 AM

Not to be confused with Shock and Awe.

Ok, so in getting my house ready for sale I have maxed out 2 credit cards and started a 3rd. I'm paying the minimums on them until the house sells and then I should be able to pay most of them off. Plus I will be sharing expenses with SO since I moved in with him so that will cut my expenses in half.

Still, I feel like I have a big weight hanging over me. I am an anxious person under normal circumstances and take meds, but this additional stress is starting to get to me.

Today SO calls me at work to tell me that the clutch needs to be replaced in my motorcycle. Now I LOVE that motorcycle and it's given me a lot of pleasure and therapy. So I tell him that we can just let it set until I sell the house and can afford to get it fixed.

But he said No - he is going to pay for it. $600. Plus he is paying all the bills at his house because I'm still paying the bills at my house.

I'm so used to being independent that this is causing me all kinds of stress. He said that we are a couple now and that we take care of each other. I just hate feeling like I'm not carrying my weight financially.

He's a good man - I love him very much but I don't want to take advantage of his generous nature. I will pay him back somehow - probably when the house sells.

PLEASE SEND ME SOME HOUSE SELLING MOJO!

NL

jo2love posted 8/29/2013 11:24 AM

(((NL)))

Sending super house selling mojo.

nutmegkitty posted 8/29/2013 11:37 AM

~~~~~ HOUSE SELLING MOJO ~~~~~~~

coming your way Newlease!!!!

better4me posted 8/29/2013 12:27 PM

house selling mojo!

And:

He said that we are a couple now and that we take care of each other.
He's right, you know. Leaning on someone doesn't mean you are weak and dependent...

InnerLight posted 8/29/2013 19:19 PM

He sounds like a true gentleman who loves you.

Relax into receiving care from a good man. There are a thousand ways you 'pay him back' besides counting out the dollars and cents.

He is asking you to let him care for you, don't make it all about paying him back because that attitude creates a block to his care. You know he feels good taking care of you. Don't deny him that.

He loves you and accepting his love is NOT taking advantage or being a leach.

kernel posted 8/29/2013 19:56 PM

House selling mojo!!!!!

Bluebird26 posted 8/30/2013 01:40 AM

Mojo sent

Newlease posted 8/30/2013 08:21 AM

Thanks Innerlight. I just have so much trouble accepting this because every other relationship I've been in, including XWH, was all about keeping track. It was like there was an invisible score board where every favor, monetary or not, was tallied.

I love this man so I'm trying to relax into his care. But it is not easy and it does not come naturally to me.

NL

nowiknow23 posted 8/30/2013 08:59 AM

Mojo mojo mojo!!!

Blackhair posted 8/31/2013 22:46 PM

Sending you selling house mojo!

Btw, I am a licensed realtor, have lots experiences, if you need any advice, pm me I would like to help! Even tho we might not in the same states/ country. Good luck!

missherlots posted 9/1/2013 21:50 PM

Newlease,

Mucho MOJO + MOJO + MOJO = house sold.
I would do the same for you is his shoes!

to love and be loved is more than money!

I allow him to show you his love in that way.

Allow yourself to be loved by someone who is trying to show you how much he cares for you.

relax and enjoy love!!!

It really feels good, doesn't it?

my two cents

[This message edited by missherlots at 9:51 PM, September 1st (Sunday)]

gma56 posted 9/1/2013 22:07 PM

When you love someone and they love you, you have each other's back. Graciously let him cover your back and the time will come he'll need you to cover's his for awhile. You've been on your own for a long time NL but now you don't have to do it all alone. I couldn't be happier for you finding each other !
House selling MOJO !!!
Hugs
Gma

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