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ButterflyGirl posted 8/29/2013 14:05 PM

I had to clean up my personal computer for work reasons and was getting everything important on my external hard drive including documents and pictures. I was trying to get all the pictures organized by year, and man did it suck seeing all those old pictures while copying and moving them around.. Wedding pictures, baby pictures, vacations, friends, family.. It all feels like such a waste now. What a waste of time and energy I spent on this guy. Not sure if I wanna be mad or sad, but I think I'm gonna go crawl up in a ball on my bed.. Hopefully my cat joins me.. I'm so lame..

nowiknow23 posted 8/29/2013 14:10 PM

((((((BG)))))) You are not the least bit lame. I'm sorry you are hurting, honey.

jo2love posted 8/29/2013 15:54 PM

(((ButterflyGirl)))

You aren't lame. It's natural to look through pictures and feel that way. Years ago, I googled my x, found an old pic, and saved it to my computer. Looking at it made me feel blah, empty, hollow. In time, it gets better. Sending you strength and hope for a better tomorrow.

Kajem posted 8/29/2013 16:18 PM

Not lame processing this journey. Past memories are a trigger, give yourself the gifts of time and forgiveness. It'll get better.

Hugs,

K

SBB posted 8/29/2013 16:21 PM

I haven't looked through old photos on my hard drive but I have deleted all of the pics on FB. Man, that was rough. I couldn't click delete fast enough. I wrapped myself up in my arms and wept the rest of that night.

Unfortunately even photos of me and my girls when they were little were all taken by him. I tried to think of 'me' and them in the moments captured but thoughts of who took the photo used to intrude in on those memories.

A year on this road - I haven't thought of it until I read your post.

It gets easier, I promise.

I'm so sorry BG. I know right where you are. Be gentle with yourself. It is OK to grieve.

kernel posted 8/29/2013 20:42 PM

It's not lame at all. All my old stuff is sitting in a box. I was always going to scan in the old photos as a winter project and didn't get to it before D-day. I'm in no rush to go through them now because I know it will be hard and sad. I can put that off for another winter, nooo problem. So I'm lamer than you by far.

tesla posted 8/29/2013 21:03 PM

BG, it took me a long time to get to the box of pictures that I had stuffed in the back of the closet a few days after D-day...like a year. And it made me sad too when I finally pulled that box out and started sorting them. ((((BG))))

CheaterMagnet posted 8/29/2013 22:29 PM

((((BG)))))

You are not lame. No lamer than any of us. It hurts. But it won't always hurt. The searing white hot agony will be reduced to sharp pain. The sharp pain will turn into a dull ache. And the dull ache will eventually be replaced by at the very most, slight melancholy.

And while you travel that path through the pain, we'll be here. Post whenever you feel the pain and we will rush in to hold your hand. Kind of like a labor coach.

Hang in there sweetie.

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