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SoAngryAndHurt posted 8/29/2013 17:13 PM

I need advice, words of wisdom or something. My WH had an A with a mom at our kids preschool. Now my child had started kindergarten and there's a mom that looks just like the OW. She's actually a pretty. less skanky version (great!). Plus I learned that this lady's daughter has the same name as the OW. Shoot me now. How am I going to survive this school year?

BeyondBreaking posted 8/29/2013 17:18 PM

Is your daughter good friends with her? If they aren't friends, you can probably get away with dealing with her as little as possible.

I hate to say it, but I would deal with this woman over having your H interact with her. :/

I would try to find something about this woman that does NOT fit OW's description at all. Then whenever you see her and think of OW, immediately think of everything about this parent that is NOT like OW, and talk yourself out of those thoughts. With her daughter- same thing. Everytime you hear the name and trigger, look at the sweet little girl and remember that she is not a skanky whore- she is a sweet child in your daughter's class.

Hang in there!!

namaste32 posted 8/29/2013 18:06 PM

I have no idea what to do about this,but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone with this awful situation. Right across from my house lives a woman with her husband and two kids. She looks like OW. I am not kidding,everything on her looks like OW. Her haircolor,style,bodyshape and weight. So yea,its awful,because I see her every single day. Oh and to top it off,the lady across drives the same car in a little darker color as OW. So as you see,its difficult. I just lived by the mantra,that its not her,this poor woman across cant help it. So I started speaking to her a bit more,she is actually very nice. But I still cant be friends with her,there is just no way. But getting to know her a little more did help a little. Maybe you could do the same,just so you can see that she is propably nothing like the real OW? Good luck,...

homewrecked2011 posted 8/29/2013 18:53 PM

You're not alone. One of my son's friend's mom looks like OW and drive the same vehicle!!! So many times I have driven past one store thinking it was OW in there, but when I see the tag, I know it's this lady.

I try to go up to say hi to her regularly so that I can imprint the nice person she is on my brain instead of the OW. It is a trigger, however!