So the story goes like this:
Five years ago I was in another relationship (not the woman I am with today). We were together maybe a year and a half. During that time, the woman I was with became somewhat involved with another woman. I wasn't happy about it, not because I saw it as cheating, but more because I wanted to be a part of it. Yep, I know, twisted (with hind sight).
I argued with the both of them about wanting a threesome. Never got one, but I did find myself one night sleeping between the two of them. I did kiss this other woman and spooned her, while we slept.
Skip ahead a few months, I broke up with that girlfriend. The other women went on to date and marry my best friend. Neither of us telling him, what had taken place between us. I even was their best man at the wedding.
So four years later, I'm with the most amazing woman. My BGF. I've spent a good part of this relationship lying, and had a ONS. One of those lies was about my best friend's wife. I never told my BGF about our being intimate. I allowed this woman, and my friend into our home, slept at our home, and have continued contact with this woman under the guise that she was like a sister to me. In other words, I lied to my BGF and my BF. I also would chat with this woman through texts and on facebook. Maybe talked on the phone a few times. I even was trying to get my BGF and myself to run out and meet her for coffee one night, because she was passing through town (they live out of state atm). I want to stress that I have no feelings for her. She's my BF's wife. My BGF doesn't believe this.
She recently sent a text to me on the 4th of July..."Happy 4th of July! Miss You!". This was the point where I explained the whole story to my BGF. And of course she's upset, says the both of us were deceiving and she feels this woman was getting her ego stroked knowing I had wanted this threesome with her years ago. That there is no way in hell this is a sister/brother relationship.
So my question is how do I handle this with my friend? I've taken this woman off of facebook, I never texted back. And I won't answer any calls of hers. It's not like she reaches out often, but because she's my best friend's wife, she does contact me. And we see each other from time to time.
I see my BGF's point, and I don't care if I ever see this woman again. She's nothing to me. But my friend means a lot. What if my BGF and I marry one day? How do I handle this woman? My BGF wants her no where in the picture. She feels that because I lied about her, she has no place in our lives. I agree, but could really use some advice as to how to make this happen.
I am open to everyone's suggestions, PLEASE... BW/BH, WW/WH, everyone.