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trebleclef posted 8/29/2013 22:29 PM

Well, divorce is a done deal - Hallelujah! ( XH emailed the other day to ask "what's this about the D being final? I have no info." HAHA! I suspect he hasnt paid his lawyer.)

Big BUT...... the property settlement is still not done; D was severed from the settlement due to XH's delay tactics. Mediation was a fail - the mediator terminated us due to his non-compliance. So now, New Attorney is ready to blow him out of the water with everything she can think of to Shock and Awe and Overwhelm and Intimidate - in order to then slip him a nice letter offering to forget all that if he would just sign the agreement we've had on the table for two years.

Will the strategy work? I'm not betting on it. At last count XH had nearly 400 pieces of unopened mail - he is pathologically avoidant of anything that causes him anxiety. I think he will ignore the pressing documents served and we will end up in court. All because he disagrees with an appraisal I had done, and refuses to get his own. SIGH.

Can't wait to get this over with. Here comes the atomic bomb - and I am steeling myself to be the bad guy. Spent time with IC today preparing for the worst, including possible slitting of wrists (his).

Sitting at the top of the rapids in my canoe and expecting a wild ride. Wish me luck.

newlysingle posted 8/29/2013 22:48 PM

Congrats on the divorce! I'm sorry that you're still having to deal with the property deal end of it. Sending you strength and mojo that it goes well!

MyReturn2Me posted 8/29/2013 23:37 PM

Here's some duct tape. Strap yourself in!

GOOD LUCK!!!!!

tryingagain74 posted 8/30/2013 00:17 AM

Sending you wild ride on the rapids to peaceful, gentle waters mojo!

SBB posted 8/30/2013 02:08 AM

Woowhoo - one down, one to go!

I sure do hope you get costs for him dragging this out.

heartbroken_kk posted 8/30/2013 02:22 AM

MOJO!

Kajem posted 8/30/2013 06:27 AM

Sending strength.

lynnm1947 posted 8/30/2013 13:39 PM

My dear friend found it was a HUGE mistake to separate the D from the financial settlement. Ten years later, her XH still hadn't settled. But, good luck to you, my dear, and all the best in your new life! Yeeeee-haw!

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 1:41 PM, August 30th (Friday)]

hemademesingle posted 8/30/2013 13:58 PM

Congratulations on the divorce,

Your X sounds a lot like my dumbass STBX, we are 23 months into the court system, and he still hasn't provided his financials, hasn't filed income tax since 2007

I had 2 judges refuse to severe the divorce from the finances,

Sometimes it's a nightmare dealing with these idiots

trebleclef posted 8/31/2013 23:32 PM

Thanks for the mojo SI peeps! I need all the encouragement I can get. It started today with my final email to him, letting him know that all bets are off and I am no longer putting $ into the account, ( as per advice from my lawyer) As you can imagine, that was not well received, but I told him any further response from him would be deleted unread, and to forward any other comments or questions to his lawyer.

hemademesingle - yep - they're clones. Mine hasnt filed income tax for several years either, nor provided the legal paperwork. I really needed the divorce to be final so that I could move on financially - no one will lend me anything while I'm tied to him. I'm glad that part is done; I am free now to pursue other relationships and make decisions without his input etc.

This new lawyer is a crackerjack, and unlike the last one who actually reminded me a lot of XH, WILL take him before a judge if he doesn't comply. How is it that these guys get away with stuff endlessly?