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User Topic: 9 mths since DD and getting better
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Happy  Posted: 4:11 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ever since DD my hubby has been attentive, loving, so truly sorry, honest, open and utterly ashamed and mortified by his online affair (which lasted 3 mths)

Im not saying its been a breeze, VERY far from it. I still have triggers, I have sad days, and when I do ... we talk. I cry, he holds me. I get annoyed, he listens to me. We talk more now than ever before. we are more open about our feelings than ever before.
I wouldn't wish an affair in whatever form on anyone ... it bloody hurts. BUT .. we have come so far since DD and I just wanted people out there to know, it does and will get better as time goes on.
I love my husband as much now as I did before DD (if not more) He is extremely sorry and ashamed of his actions and I believe him when he says he will never do anything to jeopardise our marriage again.
Yes, im still sad that this has happened, but in some ways, I am pleased because it HAS brought us closer together, and made us talk about things in our life...

(for those of you that don't know my husband was born with Bladder Exstrophy, a condition where his bladder was on the outside of his body. This resulted in his private parts being 'short' and not being able to penetrate during sex EVER ... his online relationship with this other woman was fictional, he pretended to be someone else with her. She didn't know about me or our children, he never talked about our life (for which I am grateful)

So now we talk a lot more about everything, mostly our sex life, what I had been missing and what he feels being 'him' ... we did MC together and separately. We are getting through this TOGETHER ...

If you love your partners, keep at it.

Today is a good day, last week was a good week ... bring on the rest of our lives together ...

Me & Hubby = aged 48
Together 16 years
Married 10 years
He had 1 yr EA in chat room then 6mths EA phone/texting with same woman.
Cyber sexed with many OW in chat room for at least 1 year.

Posts: 123 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: UK
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 5:48 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


May we all feel the peace your post speaks of.

God be with us all.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

Posts: 5825 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, August 30th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Thank you for sharing your positive steps forward with us .


"If you want to know who your tribe is, speak your truth, then see who sticks around. Those are the people who get a spot in your blanket fort." -Nanea Hoffman

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