I post on another board that follows the advice of a marriage counceler, part of that advice is to go strist NC if the affair does not stop.
Well I did that after kicking him out August 13. NC is extremely hard, practically impossable for us. The only person I have to act as our go between is my sister who works in the ER and still attends school. Some messages aren't getting to her and she is not always able to get back to us in a reasonable amount of time.
Also we have 8 kids, 1 speacial needs and 1 with a broken leg (almost healed)He sees them here there is no place else for him to see them. I'm supposed to go out the back door as he comes in the front, that worked the first day.
Sometimes the older kids aren't home and I have to wait on him to come in. The younger ones are 6, 4 (the special needs child) 3, and 9 months.
He comes 2x a week before I take the 4 & 3 yo to preschool, they want to kiss their dad goodbye of course.
This is really hard, I listen to suggestions given to me on the other board, but I don't see how to apply them to my situation.
I kicked my WH out in Jan. and he came home in March, we did not do NC that time, even though I was advised by that board to do so, the affair resumed sometime in May and I found out June 25. They are coworkers and I knew I should have made him quit that job, but he assured me it would be fine.
Does anyone have any ideas, suggestions, anything?