... and immediately thought, "Jesus, somewhere out there is someone's WS reading this and taking it as 'proof' that they should be with their 'soul mate'.
"Look, as sentient meat, however illusory our identities are, we craft those identities by making value judgments. Everybody judges, all the time. Now, you got a problem with that, you’re living wrong."
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
10 weeks? Jeepers, most people haven't started farting in front of one another in 10 weeks, no wonder it's lurve.
I read the phrases "true love" and "love of life" and think... Well, never mind what I think. It's very jaded.
If you feel an obsessive need to have your feelings reciprocated, then you are likely passionately attracted to that individual.
If you feel an enormous sucking feeling inside of you that no amount of validation will ever fill, and someone attractive seems like they enjoy telling you things to indicate that they are awesome enough to make you feel like a whole person eventually, then you are likely passionately attracted to that individual.
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how very disney.
(It's exactly this kind of bullshit that fueled ALL of Trac-Fone's infidelities. I was "never the one," I am told.)
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Old and jaded---and thinking, "What utter tripe."
Young and jaded here I guess. My mother taught me never to believe in fairy tales. There was a reason why the Disney films ended with them riding off to his castle. Showing dirty dishes or changing pee soaked diapers would be a very hard angle to sell to consumers.
I also tend to take Yahoo articles with a grain of salt considering lots of their "articles" are fluff pieces.
All that feeling indicates is that you're alive and breathing, it's not a part of being "in love", whatever that phrase actually means
That quote didn't say it was part of being in love. That's a completely different thing. I think that quote was dead on, if you have an obsessive need and compulsion to have feelings reciprocated you will be attracted to that person.
Why else, once a sense of sanity returns (or established if none existed before) do you look at the exact same person and say, "holy shit, what the fuck was I thinking?".
Let's be honest. We don't really know people we're feeling attracted to at first, most of the time. What we're experiencing, for the most part is how that person makes US feel. Not how good they are for us, what they're really like, sometimes even if we like them. I can't tell you how many of my friends obsessed about how the guy felt about them. When I asked them how they felt about him they'd be completely stymied. I can't believe that wouldn't be the very first item on their list. Do I even like this person. It ain't, though. For many. Pretty fucked up priority right there.
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'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth
does anyone really believe that there is "one true love" for all of us?
Disney, indeed. I mean, what are the odds of ever finding that "one" out of all the people in the world? It's just not possible. Nonsensical.
I don't know if that one was the hooker or the drug dealer. I do know that those women are STBX's True Loves. That's why he cheated on me with the drug dealer. That's why he so easily started dating again IMMEDIATELY after we separated. I was nothing to him. He told me so while we were married. Told me to my face that my wedding ring didn't stand for anything. That was on Valentine's Day, BTW. Such a romantic, that guy...
I don't know that I believe there is a True Love for me out there. Maybe I already let him go. Maybe I'm not one of those destined to have a True Love. Maybe I'm so badly wounded and traumatized that I'm not even capable of finding out now.
Married 32 yrs
D-Day 3-4-12, 5-30-12 & 8-19-12
7 kids, 7 grandkids
Filed for divorce
I believe some people have it and some dont.