No, Thefly, you are not.
I read an interesting piece in the LA Times a few months back about how not to say the wrong thing to a person dealing with a trauma/crisis.
The article describes a ring theory where the person at the center of the crisis falls within the center ring. Everyone else, depending on how close he or she is to the crisis falls within a series of increasingly large concentirc rings - like a bullseye target. The rule to follow is comfort in, dump out.
So, the person at the center can bitch, vent, cry to all of the people in the outer circles. All they should be doing in return, unless specifically asked for advice/opinions, is providing comfort and support to the person at the center.
It seems so obvious. Yet, so few people I've encountered are able to do this.
I only told 2 girlfriends who I know will just support me. I can't deal with the stupid shit other people are inevitably going to say. My WH told his parents and they told his sister. His sister has been great. MIL, not so much and I've had to get her to pump her brakes several times already.
I'm sorry for all you're going through and I hope you have someone IRL who can give you comfort and support without the judgements and unsolicited advice.