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User Topic: Infidelity fatigue, also known as shut up, Brain.
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As we all know the infidelity is perpetually on the mind of the betrayed (at least for some amount of time, for me I'm 4+ months out). Sometimes I feel myself start to tune it out. It must be a survival thing. I become so exhausted by it that I find myself almost pretending it didn't happen, just to get a break from the constant hurt and anger. Maybe this is tied to the roller coaster, and the ups happen when we can tune it out briefly. I am desperate to feel normal and so so ready for the plain of lethal flatness to hit.

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.

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Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I just wanted you to know that you've been heard.


DDay #1 03/07/2011
DDay#2 04/08/2011
Four Children
2 DS 13, 9
2 DD 11, 6

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♂ 30369
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's definitely okay to take mental breaks whenever you can. That's one of the reasons I suggest physical activity so often. Not only does it release toxins from your body, but it also distracts your mind temporarily.

This roller coaster is a long ride, but the hills and valleys tend to spread out and get less drastic with time. I'm almost three years out and still think about the A very frequently, but it doesn't hurt nearly as much these days.

This stuff does get easier to handle with time. Hang in there.

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♀ 39652
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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I completely understand. I'm exhausted all the time. Not from activity, but I think it's from the pain. Two hours seem to be my limit. Then I need a mental break, to be alone, away from the world.

I wish there was an easy answer. I think it takes time, and the feeling that we know what direction we are heading in.

Hang in there...

Me: BGF (48)
Him: WBF (nogoodap1), cheater and SA
Together for 3 years. Not sure how much longer.
I was blinded by this trauma, but no longer. He's showing me who he is, I'm finally paying attention. Time and the truth will decide the outcome.

Posts: 769 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 40306
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Just wanted you to know I seem to be experiencing the same thing.

It's so exhausting isnt it?

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 2014, 1 yr. later than I should have
Psalms 27:14 Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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