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User Topic: Regrouping when you lose it
♀ 32265
Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been walking on eggshells during this in house separation.
Not engaging if I can help it and staying away as much as possible.
Every single time I have been out with friends or family, he texts something nasty.
Last night my daughter and I went with family to a ball game. I mentioned it to him when he called about a financial issue, and I could just hear it in hs tone, there was going to be hell to pay.
So halfway through the game I get a text, "you are a fucking piece of work."
Sick to my stomach, I left soon after. I wanted to get home before my daughter to see what rage problem was.
Apparently I am a Fing c$&@ like my cousins who are divorced. I also am sneaky, he doesn't trust ME. How dare I go out and not give him advanced notice??? After all we are still married.
I'm ashamed to say I lost it, crying and just yelling at him that he has some nerve!! And I called his AP every name in the book and some I made up.
Didn't sleep worth a darn, but that's not a new thing.
I know I need to get out. I have to stop using my daughters health as an excuse.
If I let him continue to do this, if I continue to allow him to beat me down, they will win.
I am going to draw on the strength of you dear, strong friends here on SI.

Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.

Posts: 634 | Registered: May 2011
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


When is in-house going to be over?

Would you be able to get a VAR and record this the next time he goes off on you?

Okay, so you KNOW you're not a f-ing c**t. We all know this. That bastard is just running you down because you're daring to have a life.

What are you doing to take care of yourself?

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's an arsehole. All he is looking to do is make your life miserable.

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 12 and 15
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 2348 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ 39170
Member # 39170
Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, August 31st (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I know a bit of what you're talking about. WH was furious with me last night because I had a (prearranged) coffee date with one of my best friends. He was mad that I could find the time to spend with her but not him (even though he'd been ok with it the night before). He got pretty nasty

I hope your night is going better.

Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner

Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
Topic Posts: 4

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