He felt it was wrong what I did but also felt I didn't have an affair because I wasn't physical with anyone. He then blamed himself saying that if he made me happy I wouldn't have done that. I am perfect, that he failed once (his previous marriage where she had multiple affairs) and he won't again.
This lead to more talk about how he does this self blame in our relationship and then the issue never gets resolved. Also how i was my responsible for my own actions.
In some ways this is more difficult because he is not angry with me. I feel like I got off on a technicality but then I catch a look in his eye that shows me that I what I did hurt him.
He basically wants to draw a line in our relationship and just move on forgetting it happened at all.
I hope us opening up and communicating more helps us both heal.