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hlmhlmn (original poster new member #40513) posted at 1:38 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
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floridaredman ( member #15122) posted at 1:50 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
Do you want an honest marriage?
" floridaredman, it's good to have you here"...DeeplyScared
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hlmhlmn (original poster new member #40513) posted at 2:04 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
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floridaredman ( member #15122) posted at 3:18 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
But your trust issues do not entitle you to betray his trust. Furthermore it seems unfair for you to be aware of his transgressions while you are guilty of the same.
Just because you stopped it does not take away from the fact that you still betrayed him. He deserves to know
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hlmhlmn (original poster new member #40513) posted at 4:01 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 1:08 PM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
hlmhlmn (original poster new member #40513) posted at 5:48 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
My appologies to Floridaredman. I paniked. I told bh about my actions. Thank you for your advice.
floridaredman ( member #15122) posted at 6:57 PM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
Apology? None needed. Good for you for telling your bh. I wish you both much success.
How did he take it?
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hlmhlmn (original poster new member #40513) posted at 3:59 PM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
He felt it was wrong what I did but also felt I didn't have an affair because I wasn't physical with anyone. He then blamed himself saying that if he made me happy I wouldn't have done that. I am perfect, that he failed once (his previous marriage where she had multiple affairs) and he won't again.
This lead to more talk about how he does this self blame in our relationship and then the issue never gets resolved. Also how i was my responsible for my own actions.
In some ways this is more difficult because he is not angry with me. I feel like I got off on a technicality but then I catch a look in his eye that shows me that I what I did hurt him.
He basically wants to draw a line in our relationship and just move on forgetting it happened at all.
I hope us opening up and communicating more helps us both heal.
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