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Well, I actually did look under the house! No videos there. If they ever were there, they're gone now.

I counted the titles on the list. I thought there were dozens, right? I was wrong. I counted either 192 or 198 titles. I don't remember which it was now 'cuz just when I finished the count one of my kids came to find me & I had to quickly hide the list.

VENT: How come people in the real world think stuff like this is horrifying, but no one in the world that has any power to protect my kids does? How come the combined weight of all the things I've found amounts to zero? How come if we were staying married I would get all kinds of support from "the system", but as soon as we're getting divorced I'm just a hysterical, overly-dramatic, overprotective mom who is incapable of making reasonable statements?

(((((((NG))))))))

It sucks. No answers, just support.

It sucks.

You are doing a great job of keeping your children safe!

My XH is a SA who is addicted to porn. I caught him watching it in front of my kids. After that I never left him alone with the kids. A few months later he was out of the house. We decided to do MC.

I brought it up in MC. She was obligated to report it to CPS and she did. He was out of the house and the kids weren't with him alone so there wasn't anything for CPS to do. If I had let him stay in the house though CPS would have taken my kids.

When all this was brought up to the courts and when I tried to keep him on a supervised visitation...the court decided he didn't need supervised visitation. That's funny because CPS did think he needed supervised visitation.

Yep, CPS viewed me as protecting my kids and being a good mother while the court viewed me as the crazy, vindictive ex wife.

Does anyone know, when you buy porn vids from private suppliers (I don't actually know what these kind of businesses are called), can the vids be on floppy disks? 'Cuz there are hundreds of floppy disks all over the house and garage. They're labeled like they're work stuff, but I know that one of them has porn on it because I looked at it. Is it possible that these vids are truly in plain sight? That these work floppies aren't work at all?

How are videos formatted?

Is it illegal to have videos of rapes? How would you know if a rape video was a genuine rape or a fake rape?

My God, how is it that my life is in a place where I ask questions like this?

I am sorry you are dealing with this and no one is taking this crap seriously. Can you get the local police department to help you or child services (or the equivalent in the USA)?

I would be careful in searching for answers online in case he is actually trying to set you up with incriminating search histories.

The more I read about people like him, the more I think I'm so naive about the world.

((hugs)) NG. You have my everlasting admiration for having to deal with this shit.

NG, you're my hero for taking all of this stuff on, and doing your best to protect your kids. I wish I had answers for you.

I would personally get law enforcement involved. If any of that involves child pornography, I don't know how you might be implicated for having it. If they do find illegal content, that might be just what you need in court to prevent him from having visitation, and maybe you'll even get him thrown in jail.

I can't believe that the courts turn a blind eye to all of this. That's disgusting.

((((NG)))) I would talk to law enforcement. Show them the list, ask them what to do.

Continued strength coming your way.

Porn hasn't been on anything but CDs & DVDs for about 15 or 20 years. And it's been a good decade that you actually need to buy anything given all the free shit online. So do you mean floppy disks as in those square plastic cases from the 1990s? Or do you truely mean floppy disks that are the actual floppy ones from the 1980s?

I think if you have any type of e-storage device in your house & you don't know what's on it, it needs to be destroyed. I wouldn't waste time with the police, or even trying to access the storage devices. No matter what it is you don't need it so just collect & get rid of it.

If you hsve any computers with a floppy disk drive it's possible he could saved them on a floppy but would a floppy be large enough to hold movies? My XH used computer disks to download porn on the internet.

You need to try and get a GAL assigned to your kids. They have a lot of weight with the judge and if your judge doesn't listen to a GAL there is something seriously wrong.

I think your XH is probably the worse we have seen here on SI and I can't believe the court(judge) isn't doing a damn thing to protect the kids. Oh wait, I can believe it!

If you are talking about the old 3.5 inch floppies, there is not enough storage for videos, but they could hold short video clips or pics.

I agree with everyone else that you should contact law enforcement. Even if they don't do anything you at least have it documented.

(((NG)))
I hate that you have to deal with this shit.

Call the police; better yet, stop at the police station. Explain the D situation, explain some of what you've already found or know to be true with regard to his perversion.... tell them about the floppies, voice your concerns as to you being afraid of what may be on them, ask if they can assist. If it is sicko stuff, let them deal with him. If it isn't, then that's one less thing you have to deal with/go through/look at. Don't just ditch them. I've read your previous posts concerning the garage clean out, etc. I feel so badly for you, NG. Dealing with the affairs is bad enough for all of us but when this kind of crap enters the picture, it becomes even worse (when we didn't think 'worse' was possible). Hang in and hang on; they say 'the truth will set you free.' I hope the truth about your worthless former H comes out sooner rather than later.

(((NG)))

Be very careful about what you do with these floppies. I know my XWH#1 had a lot of porn and was also going on porn sites on our computer using my login. During the D he tried to have my computer seized as evidence for HIM. I had to lie and tell them the computer died and I got rid of it. I had no idea what was on the hard drive that he was trying to use against me and I didn't care. It was just one of the many things he did during the D to try and get custody.

Just wanted to chime in and add support but also that I would let the police know, too. I've done that with some of Perv's shenigans and they told me they were glad to have a "head's up" with his and OWs names.

I think it seems in your best interest, Nature Girl, self protection of yourself and house "just in case". We don't know what mode of thought your WH could be in or anything and it worries me for you and your kids to be a tad vulnerable in that way.

Perv did all of it on his phone and computer, though is a techy and I see stuff in the house like you mention, that lately makes me wonder, or the magazines in the bathroom, are they really about lions and tigers or technology?