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User Topic: please help!! Questions!
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Member # 40500
Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I found out through a friend that OW is separated as of last week. I guess her BH was serious about being done!
She is off work all this week but WH says he doesn't know where the whore is, she just sent him a time off request. When he told me she had asked off a few weeks ago, his comment was "I don't know where she's going-maybe vacation, moving, I hope she's looking for another job."
So she's separated and off work next week. I will be freaking out all next week wondering if she is moving, is WH going to her house? If she took vacation, I hope the whore is looking for another job in a different state.

I'm just so scared that when the baby comes, WH is going to leave. He keeps saying he is here, he isn't going anywhere, and I want to believe him!
Is it possible I'm making this more complicatated than it needs to be? I found a receipt for coffee the other day, there were 2 coffees on the purchase. I don't know if WH bought that whore coffee or if it was for someone else. I'm not sure if it is worth the fight asking.

I want the ho-worker GONE and I want PEACE.

Posts: 25 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Communication is key to R. Tell your WH how you feel and talk it out. You'll drive yourself crazy if you don't.

Part of R is him supporting you through times like this.

[This message edited by Pippy at 10:25 AM, September 1st (Sunday)]

I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.

Posts: 9588 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your feelings are very legitimate, but please. Remember to stop and breath every so often. As Pippy said, you need to try to talk all of this out with you WH and he needs to do whatever it is, to try to reassure you. If you need him to send you a photo 2-3x a day proving where he is, he needs to do it. If you need to talk to him during the day, he needs to make time. This is time for him to man-up and be there for you.

(((hugs))) I'll be praying that the ho-worker is out looking for another job as well.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10206 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Member # 40166
Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ask him about the coffee receipt. Why should you worry after what he's done? I hope that he WANTS to reassure you, and does. If he's defensive and starts a fight, that's a sign.
I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 1127 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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