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User Topic: Down day
kg201
♂ 40173
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was doing well with days 3-5 of the separation this week. But then a flare up with the WW yesterday and today I'm feeling down and missing her. I'm with the kids today and tomorrow, but having trouble engaging with them. I know she is going to see her AP at some point in the next two days and I don't want to care, but...

That is all. Just venting.


Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Posts: 1071 | Registered: Aug 2013
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((kg201)))

Posts: 40537 | Registered: Mar 2011
PurpleRose
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Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there. The down days are tough, so just hold onto your sweet kids and remember how much they need a calm and rational for e in their lives now.

((Kg))


divorced the Dooosh 8/13
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3636 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
mof2
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Member # 40287
Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((KG)))))


BW - Me 43
WH - Cheating Swine 43
Dday - February 12, 2013....a week before I was to give birth to the child I miscarried and 12 days before our 5th anniversary.

Posts: 336 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: DFW
kernel
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Member # 27035
Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kg, this is where you force yourself to get busy and do something, anything active with your kids. Go to a park, go to a ball game, go to the movies, a bike ride, a cooking project, yard work - anything to get your mind in a better place. When you're busy, it's easier to stay on an even keel and keep the negative thoughts at bay. You CAN do this. Focus on the kids and get busy.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5378 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((kg)))) For every down day, there's an upward swing that follows. Until then, keep your kids in your actions and thoughts, and keep moving forward. Sending you strength and comfort.


You can call me NIK

"And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be."
- Sarah McMane


Posts: 31007 | Registered: Aug 2011
kg201
♂ 40173
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok. Off to get subway sandwiches and drive to the top of a mountain with the kids. My WW's suggestion, but I need something.

Thank you for the replies everyone. SI is helping me through.


Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Posts: 1071 | Registered: Aug 2013
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