Lately there has been a change in DD's behavior, even for her defiant self, and I wonder about how far to let some of it go, knowing the kind of duress she herself is under?
It's happening on a daily basis that she is acting defiant and then when I have to correct her, she actually is shouting at me. She also did this to Nearly Exh and he didn't do anything to correct it-that would have been conflict.
While I don't like conflict, I worry about her age-puberty-and this defiant streak being in her nature already.
She is making bad choices and getting in trouble for them and then yelling at me. In a way it's effective because it gets her in trouble and me to go away, which she wants, but it's bothering me.
I have the name of a new counselor from her pediatrician and now that Nearly ExH is busy with work will start taking her to counseling again, but I wondered about any experience with this type of backlash on SI?
ETA: When I took her before, he attended and manipulated all the sessions so that it wasn't beneficial to her.
I wonder too, if she expects to get away with it with me, as she does with him? I don't have the guilt and other problems he does so to me her punishments stand as they used to, where with him, not so much.
Thank you.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 5:43 PM, September 1st (Sunday)]