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User Topic: The simplicity of texting & boundaries
♀ 22722
Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, September 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just cleared out my voicemail box. Got messages from people I don't want to talk to, at least not right now.

I sent one of them a message saying "I got chores but may take the dogs for a walk instead. Being antisocial this weekend"

Inotherwords: "Don't come over, I might not be here"

I really am an introvert, and I don't feel like it is my duty to inform everyone who wants to communicate with me that I don't want to communicate.

So the short, somewhat curt, and possibly insensitive but maybe not texting works for me.

Boundaries. I gots them.

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

Posts: 2074 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Boundaries. I gots them
I understand ! I needed to recenter this weekend too ! I have one more day to accomplish this. Stressed isn't a strong enough word.

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, September 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i hear ya.

I get a LOT of emails from my dear mom. I used to answer each one in very short answers because I didn't want to be bothered with trivial stuff. I finally told her that if I don't answer her not to take it personally. The same goes for voice mail. If it's not important I may not answer and my family and friends know this about me. This may be rude but it works for me and my personality and I've had no complaints from them so far.

Of course if it is important, I may do short and sweet or long depending on my mood that day.

BW 57, WH 66, 19 yo twins
Married 28 years
2 years of $$$$$$ prostitutes.

Posts: 288 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: CO
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